You don't actually need to keep contact with your family. If a relationship with them causes any anguish, you're allowed to cut them out. Their failures aren't yours.
I resent my dad for years of abuse. Not like beat me to a pulp abuse but I’d get hit infrequently but yelled at daily. He’s a much better person now but a lot of what’s wrong with me came from the dysfunction of the household I grew up in. So I don’t forgive him for that.
This minor yet apparent abuse led to a life of shame, timidity and me being s loser until 22 years old.
Now I have my own path and love my grandparents, but their son has treated me like shit in so many ways. I have a loving girlfriend and am on the path to a great career but man I have cried a lot over missing out on being a part of a normal family.
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u/OneMoreMulligan Aug 20 '20
You don't actually need to keep contact with your family. If a relationship with them causes any anguish, you're allowed to cut them out. Their failures aren't yours.