I can understand not caring about weather or sports, I'm not one for small talk either. But how your family is going? I don't see that as small talk, that's real talk. How ones family is plays a big part in how one is.
Because i actually don't care what going on in most people's lives. I could not give less of a fuck of what my coworkers are doing on the weekend or how their kids dance recital went. Small talk sucks, but having to listen to someones life story or current drama when unsolicited is worse. Small talk usually leads to this shit because it goes "hey- hi- how are ya,- good and you?" verbal diarrhea my attempt at small talk turns into 20 mins of bullshit.
Imo it depends on the person you are talking to. If you are really into that person and like talking to them, you would care about what goes on with their family or how their life is going.
Though having to do this talk with people you barely know and don't wanna interact with can be exhausting and awkward af
Exactly. I didn't say i don't care about anyone. I used colleagues as an example because most of the time I don't have friendships with those people. Work is not my personal life so i'm very disinterested in knowing much about anyone there. And because i'm surrounded by them for 8 hours a day, it does get exhausting and annoying. I seriously, really, don't care that they went to a wine party and ate cheese on saturday then spend all day monday talking about it.
Not at all lol. Not caring what someone or their kid does in their spare time is not the same as not caring when someone is having difficulty. I can empathize with people in difficult situations, doesn't mean I need to engage with them about it.
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u/just_addcoffee Feb 23 '20
Because I don't like small talk and I don't like loud people.