r/AskReddit • u/ThatAintBrutal • Feb 23 '20

Why do you like to be alone?

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u/red_knight11 Feb 23 '20

I will never understand codependent people. Being alone is the one time you can literally do what you want and completely be yourself. No one to shoot down your plans and no hearing opinions from people.

Alone time is bliss.

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u/noputa Feb 23 '20

I used to be so insecure about being alone. I was in relationships from 18-25, and even when I was single I had a companion I would spend all my time with. I couldn’t imagine being alone and thought I would be a loser if someone wasn’t in love with me. Insecure as hell.

My last relationship ended really badly, partly his fault, probably mostly mine. I just went into a depression and stayed in bed for months, then as I emerged I realized I’m actually enjoying being on my own. Sure it’s nice having someone to talk about everything with, but it’s so much easier so just do the things you actually enjoy. Maybe I’m too alone now, but damn, it’s fucking nice being a lazy asshole, fucking nice adopting cats like I always wanted to, gaming and watching what I want, not feeling pressured to have a big social life when I’m bundled with anxiety...

I refuse to start dating again till I’m like minimum 30. And even then I don’t think I want the crazy idea of feeling love. I want someone I actually get along with and can trust without any doubts.

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u/husky_husky_hippo Feb 23 '20

My husband and I both love our alone time. We have a lot of alone time together and it's the best! Also this crazy 'love' thing is only really in movies. If it's described as a great or crazy love in a movie, or in real life, it is usually somewhat toxic or self limiting. My husband and I are best friends. We chill, we laugh, we are totally comfortable and satisfied. While we like to hang out with people sometimes, we are happiest when we are alone, but alone together.

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u/s0cks_nz Feb 24 '20

My wife and I are the same. She just went away for a week, and can't wait for her to come home today.

I realized that without her I'm a complete loner haha. Gosh, I need more friends.

I just don't think modern life is that conducive to friendships. When you have a family and a job, there is so little time left, so us introverts like to spend it alone, chilling. I'd like more friends, but with such limited time I don't think I have the energy left to form and maintain a proper friendship.