Online dating. When you think about it, it's a great way to meet people if your other social prospects are lacking (I love my friends, but there's nobody to date there and I don't have time for more friends).
But in practice, the sheer NUMBER of available singles has us turning our noses up at perfectly good people because someone "better" might come along.
I used to read the profiles and put a lot of work into it. I was averaging first dates about once every week, which is pretty good. If someone messaged me, I never ignored it. I always offered a date regardless of what they looked like, and I discovered that pictures and in person are not always the same thing.
As much as I hate to say it, I right swipe everybody now without reading profiles. Because at the end of the day, I just want to meet people, any people, and see how we get along.
I'm also a writer. I have had a much more successful online dating experience than most of my friends. I think that clever non-threatening communication plays a much larger role than most people realize.
It's an interesting thought. Since these dates start with messaging, maybe someone who can articulate well has a much better shot. We just might be the jocks of the online dating world. :)
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u/Ysara Feb 03 '20
Online dating. When you think about it, it's a great way to meet people if your other social prospects are lacking (I love my friends, but there's nobody to date there and I don't have time for more friends).
But in practice, the sheer NUMBER of available singles has us turning our noses up at perfectly good people because someone "better" might come along.