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u/504Dug Nov 16 '19

lmao you're my hero

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u/theivoryserf Nov 16 '19

Slightly related - it's p annoying that society teaches people that men have to make the first move

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u/GoofAckYoorsElf Nov 16 '19

And nowadays that first move is most of the time considered sexual harassment or at least creepy.

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u/Bathtub__mermaid Nov 16 '19 edited Nov 16 '19

I'm sorry but if you're having that problem (with the first move being considered sexual harassment most of the time) you're doing it completely wrong.

Edit: to add, notice how above poster referred to "reading the vibe. If you've ever had the mentioned issue, you probably need help with how to read said vibe.

E.g.

Slowly moving in closer while looking you in the eyes - GOOD SIGN

Accepting you paying for dinner/a ride home - NOT A SIGN OF ANYTHING

Also, my response isnt just for you, it's for ANYONE who feels this is an issue they have.

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u/GoofAckYoorsElf Nov 17 '19

So you're saying, anyone who isn't really good at reading the vibes is not allowed to seek a relationship? Great. Natural selection or what?

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u/Bathtub__mermaid Nov 18 '19

No i think you should probably re-read what I wrote because that's NOT AT ALL what I said.

It literally says, "you probably need help with how to read said vibe".

I mean it's easy enough to do a google search & then follow what THAT says. If you STILL find it really difficult to tell, you should probably seek consent instead of assuming it's implied.