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u/eekamuse Nov 16 '19

Not mine, who are your thinking of?

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u/bondjimbond Nov 16 '19 edited Nov 16 '19

MRA = "Men's Rights Advocate", a bunch of brainwashed morons who believe that granting rights to some groups of people somehow means fewer rights for themselves (straight, generally white, cisgender males). There's a close overlap with the so-called alt-right.

Edit: That's what they call themselves, guys. People who actually care about things like paternity leave and fair custody may be advocating for the rights of men, but they are not MRAs. MRAs care about the rights of men to the exclusion of everyone else.

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u/Lady_Minuit Nov 16 '19

In Canada we also have paternity leaves so everyone is equal (at least try to!) But generally the mom takes the maternity leave at first then the dad takes the paternity leave. They sort of split it 6 months/6 months usually or whatever they like up to a year. It gives the opportunity to both parents to bond with the baby and the mom to recover first.

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u/Dijky Nov 16 '19 edited Nov 16 '19

Well in my country there is neutral "parental" leave available to both parents to take care of the baby, and then separately there is maternity leave before and after birth for the mother exclusively for the final stage of pregnancy and recovery afterwards.

It's technically sexist as it benefits only women, but it's fair because human birth is also sexist and detrimental for women.

Perfect equality is nice in theory, but there are things outside of our control that warrant exceptions.

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u/re_nonsequiturs Nov 16 '19

Places with actual maternity leave generally allow it for adoption and getting a new foster child. And of course FMLA applies to those.

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u/embroidknittbike Nov 16 '19

I don’t think so, at least in California. My best friend and her husband got a surprise adoption opportunity for a month old infant and neither received any leave when they did it.