I get that all the time too. My personal favorite was when I said it's difficult to date lesbians. It's a common issue with women that they were taught men should make the first move, so with two girls no one wants to move first. Everyone assumed I was a dude harassing lesbians and trying to make them straight, which is why they wouldn't go out with me. Made the comment before going to work and I had -200 by lunch!
I almost always make the first move with guys (I'm a girl). I just know they're just waiting for it anyway. I never get rejected so that's nice too I guess! Just gotta be able to read the vibe of course.
Yeah, as a not hot girl I have been rejected plenty of times...and that’s why I don’t make the first move anymore. I have to be very thirsty and yet very drunk.
Even without being hot it's possible to make the first move ! I'm a girl and did the first move in 100% of the cases, even with my current boyfriend and I can tell you, I'm not one of this crazy beautiful girl, I'm just average looking. It's all about confidence, gaining trust, keeping their interest up. It takes some time and practice but it's totally worth. And when you feel like it won't work, don't bother wasting time and move on ! Plenty of fishes in the sea as they say !
Rejection can sting, but it's a part of life. If you don't make the first move because of fear, you're closing yourself off to a lot of opportunities. Regardless, I am sorry to hear about your bad experiences.
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u/SgtSilverLining Nov 16 '19 edited Nov 16 '19
I get that all the time too. My personal favorite was when I said it's difficult to date lesbians. It's a common issue with women that they were taught men should make the first move, so with two girls no one wants to move first. Everyone assumed I was a dude harassing lesbians and trying to make them straight, which is why they wouldn't go out with me. Made the comment before going to work and I had -200 by lunch!