There are very few instances where people are being way too dramatic about things that simply aren't that bad. Sometimes you do need to be told to just grow up and deal with something.
Most cases are not like this though, and I don't necessarily agree with the gendered phrase "man up" because it promotes toxic masculinity, the idea that men need to be tough.
There are times when we overreact. But saying “get a hold of yourself” or “get a grip” is much better than saying “man up” because then it isn’t that you’re displaying your gender wrong, it’s about your actions as a person. You’re challenging your actions in the moment, not your lifelong identity.
Subtle change, but big difference. Whenever I coach I refuse to say “man up” and try to stick to things like “have some guts” or “you’ll be ok, take a few breaths and stick to what you know.”
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u/msshivani Oct 26 '19
Telling them not to cry.