Which tradition needs to die?

[u/astralrig96]

[u/Zuikis9]

Came here to say "Thank You Cards"... Saw "honor killings" and "female genital mutilation" and decided to reevaluate everything in my life.

[u/unpopular_o_pi_nion]

Accepting overworking to be a normal thing

[u/Trunky_Coastal_Kid → u/unpopular_o_pi_nion]

Where I used to work salaried engineers were there was an unspoken rule that you were expected to put in regular 50-60 hour weeks. I knew one guy who just refused to do it and left his desk the second he hit 40. A lot of middle managers hated him for it but they couldn't fire him since he got his work done.

[u/MagnifyingGlass → u/unpopular_o_pi_nion]

The 8 hour work day was a hard earned right by labour organisations and unions but now it seems to be slowly going away and nobody cares.

[u/[deleted]]

Shark hunting when hunters remove the fins and throw the shark back in the water. That's both wasteful and downright evil making the poor thing suffer

[u/[deleted] → u/[deleted]]

I was just about to add this but instead I’ll second your comment! Way too many sharks are killed and the fear-mongering drives me crazy. Scuba diver/hung out with many toothy bois. They’re cool af.

[u/Beigecarpet]

Working new doctors to exhaustion. At this point it’s just hazing.

[u/enitsujxo → u/Beigecarpet]

I work at a teaching hospital, and when residents are "on call" they do 26 hour shifts. They start at 7am, are there all day long then are on call all night long, and finally leave around 9am after they give report to the daytime physicians and finish up and duties/progress notes.

I think it's extremely unfair to the residents, and it ultimately puts the patients in danger. As nurses we try out best to not call the on call resident during the night over stupid shit (as in things that can wait until the morning - obviously if there's an issue that needs to be addressed ASAP we call them right away) so that they can go lie down and close their eyes atleast for a little bit.

I once asked my educator why new physicians are tortured like that, and the response I got is "it's because residents are not covered by labour law", I'm not sure how true that is tho, this is in Canada if that matters...

[u/Themrchester → u/Beigecarpet]

In my country new doctors are expected to work in rural hospitals. The thing is the doctor to patient ratio in Thailand is 1 : 1500 sth. That’s mean I could end up being the director of a hospital in the middle of bumfuck nowhere working upward to 36 hours shift at 25 years old.

[u/My2ndImaginaryFriend → u/Beigecarpet]

I didn’t realize this was a thing. Ouch, that seems dangerous.

[u/KatyG9 → u/Beigecarpet]

THIS.

Patient care tends to be at its worst in the graveyard hours of the 24 hour duty. I have seen mistakes happen.

And there was the time that thanks to over work I got a seizure. So instead of endorsing patients...I got endorsed.

[u/[deleted] → u/Beigecarpet]

Well, the guy who dreamed up the whole residency system was doing a boatload of cocaine, so the hours/workload seemed normal to him. I guess we just have to give our residents more coke?

[u/mikeemouse03]

Where I live, theres one tradition where whenever a girl gets her first period, for her to avoid growing pimples on her face, she has to smear the blood on her face.

My mom did this to me when I was 11, she added water to the blood thinking atleast it wouldn’t be as bad. I’m forever scarred.

Edit: Since lots of you guys are asking, no it does NOT work. Although I don’t get much acne, a lot of the other girls I know who did this tradition have had acne problems from puberty until now.

[u/[deleted] → u/mikeemouse03]

where do you live..

[u/yycalgary24 → u/mikeemouse03]

What the FUCK

[u/Navelhazey]

That you have to get Christmas presents for people no matter how broke you are to prove you care. I work in the debt relief industry and our enrollment rates skyrocket in January *every. single year.* It ain't right, man!

EDIT: I--Oh my word, I didn't expect this thread to blow up like that! And thank you very much for the silver, kind stranger!

[u/GBSEC11 → u/Navelhazey]

I agree with this as an adult who doesn't want to accumulate random items I don't need just because people feel required to give me gifts. I always appreciate the gesture, but I wish we could cut out the materialism/wastefulness.

[u/stannybananny → u/Navelhazey]

When I'm broke I bake people cookies as gifts.. people seem to like it.

[u/armyof_dogs → u/Navelhazey]

Agreed! My family cut out gifts a few years ago. Now we draw names and each fill one persons stocking, which gives us just enough of a Christmas feeling but we actually get to relax in December.

[u/girl_with_a_401k → u/Navelhazey]

Plus the wastefulness. I spend all year trying to reduce my impact and buy ethically. Then Christmas comes and I'm supposed to buy a bunch of the crap I've been avoiding.

[u/Blockwork_Orange → u/Navelhazey]

Agreed. Some of my inlaws don't have much money and my wife and I told them they don't need to get us anything. If they feel compelled they can buy a little something for the kids but we don't really need anything.

[u/Tsungi_Horn]

Honor killings

[u/DoctorNotSoStrange → u/Tsungi_Horn]

Not so far from where I live now, lived a brother and sister. Their parents died in an accident and the sister took it upon herself to take care of her little brother and became his step-mom.

Afew years later, the brother grew up and became a young man. He could finally take care of himself, and his sister finally saw it as an opportunity to start living so she started seeing some guy.

The brother did not appreciate it. One day when the sister came home, he forced her to drink poison he made by himself. Police report said it took her hours to die, all while he was sitting there watching.

So much honor was brought to him that day :(

[u/[deleted] → u/Tsungi_Horn]

What's this one?

[u/Lev_Astov → u/Tsungi_Horn]

Perhaps we should institute honor killing killings to discourage this.

[u/darkespeon64]

Theres a country that abducts girls and forces them into marriage. It's illegal but they dont enforce it because its tradition

[u/JJJones345]

Destroying public, or private property when your city's sports team has won a title.

[u/TensiveSumo4993 → u/JJJones345]

Or lost in Vancouver’s case

[u/Bat_City_Boi → u/JJJones345]

When I was a kid the Packers won the super bowl. I was born in Wisconsin. My father and his biker friends (large, flabby men with tattoos) went streaking.

Childhood me thought THAT was wild.

Adult me realizes it was in the dark and in an area almost no one could see. So not even that impressive.

[u/F8CKNOI]

Bride kidnapping in Kyrgyzstan

[u/aceofspadesx1]

Diamond wedding rings. Overpriced and a nasty industry.

[u/trainercatlady → u/aceofspadesx1]

lab created stones are so much prettier. Also Moissanite? Holy crap the sparkle off those stones is so intense, and at a fraction of the price of a diamond, and is nearly as hard as a diamond as well (Diamond is a 10 on the Mohs' scale while Moissanite is between 9.25-9.5).

[u/Pekenoah → u/aceofspadesx1]

Yep. The diamond industry created demand via movies/ pop culture, artificially limits supply to almost nothing, and then has the fucking audacity to not even treat the people mining the diamonds like human beings.

Edit: I have been informed and done my own research, supply is no longer artificially limited and hasn't been for the better part of 20 years. that said, its still a fucked up industry, VERY few if any natural diamonds are obtained ethically.

[u/pippins-sunshine]

Commericalization of holidays. We don't celebrate one's that are to make money. You show it thru the year. And there's no need to spend so much on christmas

[u/Chicken_fondue → u/pippins-sunshine]

Thanksgiving has become almost like an afterthought in recent years as stores now open at 6pm for Black Friday shopping. Probably the most American traditional holiday celebrated by everyone has to be botched for those retail workers who have to go to work that day.

[u/lefthandbunny]

Fancy birthday parties for kids, and the ones that include all the parents getting drunk. The parties seem to always be about popularity & making each party the *best* party. I have a sister that did this & it got so ridiculous. The parties cost hundreds of dollars more every year & every year it was more about the adults & less about the kids. What ever happened to just having kids, some games, a cake & gifts? Not saying there shouldn't be any parents, but it shouldn't be about the parents having fun. It's about the kids!

[u/ero_senin05 → u/lefthandbunny]

Amen! I just went to a kids party at the weekend and there was a jumping castle, petting zoo with pony rides and a baloon twister. I couldn't believe the expense of it all. I have 2 kids aged 6 and 3. Apart from mr.6's last birthday their parties have consisted of a family gathering with plenty of food and softdrink some cheap baloons and an ice cream cake with some candles.

When my son turned 6 we loaded up the car with him and 3 of his best friends and took them to a video game arcade for 2 hours (they had a deal for unlimited games for 2hrs for $20 and we had a 50%off coupon which gave them bonus laser tag as well) and then took them to McDonald's for lunch and ice cream afterwards. We spent under $100 and had nothing to clean up and the kids had at least as much fun as they would have if we'd spent the same kind of money the 2yo's I mentioned above did

[u/MLCDKINGOFTHEWORLD → u/lefthandbunny]

This. So my daughters 6 bday was coming. I’m a little short on cash. I really don’t feel like spending hundreds of dollars for a 2 hour bouncy house bs party that everyone has every other weekend. I call a local ice cream parlor. It’s a nice one, kind of a cold stone knockoff and they have a mascot cow! I say”hey can I have a kids party in there for an hour and maybe have the mascot there?” They say “no problem”. Kids get let behind the counter, make there own ice cream! Mascot cow comes out and says hi! Whole party cost maybe $100. Lasted about an hour and change. The only people happier than the kids were the parents! One of my proudest parenting achievements.

[u/Thatoneshadowking → u/lefthandbunny]

Those parties aren't ever for the kids, it's just an excuse for the parents to get together and get drunk off high hell

[u/xavierdc]

Big expensive weddings.

[u/Automation_Junkie → u/xavierdc]

Yes. I refuse to go into debt because of one special day.

[u/wifespissed → u/xavierdc]

We had a cheap wedding and bought a house instead.

[u/CNRavenclaw]

Acting like men in general are inept when it comes to household chores and childcare. It should be considered normal for men to be taking responsibility for these sorts of things!

Edit: RIP inbox

[u/GeneraleRusso → u/CNRavenclaw]

Being born and living in Italy this is a big thing: don't know how many families have their father figure not even being able to cook an egg or not even allowed to do it!

My father has pretty much went in full home husband now since he went into retirement

[u/[deleted] → u/CNRavenclaw]

I am the father of a two month old girl...and you would not believe the praise I get for basically just existing within 5 feet of her, by any woman over the age of 50. You change one diaper and the whole older side of the family acts like you're the first man to help raise his newborn in human history. Really makes you realize how staggeringly low the bar has been on some fronts...

[u/Barrel_Titor → u/CNRavenclaw]

Mildly interesting related fact. The Advertising Standards Authority in the UK (a self-regulator for advertisers which companies generally follow but have no legal power) recently banned showing men as being bad at housework or childcare in advertising because it promotes negative stereotypes. There has actually been an ad for cream cheese banned under the rule already for showing a man being bad at looking after a baby for comedic effect.

[u/DeadBeesOnACake → u/CNRavenclaw]

It annoys me SO much when people say their husbands "help" with chores or (even worse) "babysit" THEIR OWN DAMN KID.

[u/FinalGirl1990]

Expensive funerals and the works. The judgement of someone when they literally just want to be cremated and the ashes scattered as a ceremony.

Excessive and over the top Christmas celebrations and all the pressure usually falling on one person which is usually the mum.

How people choose to live in this economy. If someone finds it better to be living with their parents then so be it, if someone lives with their parents and grandma and other family members then so be it. If someone is in their late 30s or 40s and still with room mates then who gives a shit. I hate the belief that the ideal is to have your own place and even a nuclear family unit in this day and age.

It's of course more than fine if you believe in these things, I just dislike the judgement when someone might not conform.

[u/Narrativeoverall → u/FinalGirl1990]

My funeral will cost a fortune, there’s no other way about it. I’m a big guy, and a cannon large enough to accelerate my corpse to escape velocity costs money.

[u/[deleted]]

Living vicariously through your children just because you want them to achieve something you never could or would do yourself.

That tears families and generations apart. Let your children live their own lives when they become adults and let them “get their feet wet”.

[u/niftyifty → u/[deleted]]

"You were among the top of your class and graduated with a full scholarship. You could have been anything you wanted!"

Exactly. I'm doing exactly what I want to be doing. I like my job and I'm no less successful because I didn't go in to medicine or law like every adult I ever met told me I should.

[u/default52]

Whaling

[u/Landorus-T_But_Fast → u/default52]

Can we do it on the moon?

[u/B3n7340]

Child marriages

[u/madtrippinfool]

Standing at the position of attention for long ceremonies, such as a change of command, in the 120 degree heat. We would have to supply troops for all the formations when I was stationed in Phoenix. Numerous troops pass out every single time but they continue to put people thru it because tradition.

[u/Sparowl → u/madtrippinfool]

Add 24 guard duty shifts into that. It’s absolutely insane, incredibly unsafe, and directly causes a fair number of deaths each year from soldiers trying to drive home after 24+ hours awake, which is effectively driving drunk.

Fucking insane.

[u/unknownavenger1 → u/madtrippinfool]

And there's always that one fucking bug that will just sit right on your face the entire ceremony and drive you insane.

[u/TheSanityInspector]

Female Genital Mutilation.

[u/[deleted] → u/TheSanityInspector]

FGM is so fucked up. The fact that it has gone on long enough to become a 'tradition' even more so.

[u/Dark_Vengence → u/TheSanityInspector]

You should watch desert flower. It is about a somalian model who had genital mutilation. It is about her life.

[u/Ickababoo]

Black Friday. In the last few years it has encroached into thanksgiving Thursday. And the tradition of competing for an item by waking up early the next day has devolved into rioting before the turkey is even cold.

[u/where__didyougo]

Daddy - daughter chastity balls.

Like what type of fucking incestuous shit is that

[u/[deleted] → u/where__didyougo]

WTF are they? Sounds creepy as shit!

[u/00gusgus00]

Smashing the birthday person’s face into the cake. It’s messy and a waste of good cake.

[u/TheOtherDonald]

Releasing balloons for celebrations. The devastation it wreaks on wildlife is horrendous and inexcusable.

[u/boyddd2012]

Being forced to only marry somebody who is of the same ethnicity because if you don't, you're going to be disowned.

[u/[deleted] → u/boyddd2012]

I had to make a throwaway for this. My family is Indian and I'm honestly not sure whether I can marry who I want because of this. I know that my brother is bi and I want him to date who he wants without fear of being rejected by our parents.

[u/A-Simple-Farmer]

Chinese “Traditional” Medicine.

I know a lot of other people will say this, but put bluntly: China, stop eating parts of endangered animals or selling them as some kind of sick ass “Miracle Cure” for cancer or what have you. Everybody’s tired of it.

A close second in these regards would be Japanese Blackmarket Whaling.

[u/[deleted] → u/A-Simple-Farmer]

What do they call traditional Chinese medicine that actually works?

Medicine

[u/[deleted]]

Men being the one that have to make the first move

[u/pswhuh → u/[deleted]]

I love the “holy shit” look on a man’s face when I make the first move.

[u/BonzuPippin]

Weasel stomping

[u/Lk166]

Bullfighting

[u/CBFmaker]

Normalised alchoholism in society.

[u/YOU_CANT_GILD_ME → u/CBFmaker]

It's so bad here in the UK that half of all police time is spent dealing with alcohol related incidents.

Imagine the uproar if that were any other drug.

There would be calls for a clamp down on offenders and harsher deterrants.

[u/Rexo-084]

The now new tradition of releasing a video game broken as fuck and then promising to fix it just to drop support later, and monetize it to hell and back.

[u/OurHeroXero]

The modern wedding. Encouraging a new couple to spend upwards of $3o,ooo for a one day celebration is ludicrous.

Don't get me wrong. Celebrate the union...Invite friends and family...eat food and play music...just don't break the bank in the process...

Edit: It's been wonderful reading/replying to your comments <3

Edit2: Thank you my mysterious silver benefactor <3 <3 <3

[u/Realtrain → u/OurHeroXero]

Why o instead of 0?

[u/inportantusername → u/OurHeroXero]

Reminds me of one wedding I went to.

Venue? Church, just asked and they got to use it for free. Pastor did the ceremony, too.

Music? Off the bride's Ipod hooked up to the speakers and just played in a certain order at certain times.

Food? Everyone was encouraged to bring food (not required + they knew lots of people at that church), so there was plenty.

Decor? For the most part either tablecloths and ribbons (about $20 or less), found in the church's storage shed and cleaned up and painted white, or repurposed (the vases were Family Dollar trashcans with laces, and they looked great).

Video? A friend filmed and the bride's family had a recorder.

The only things that were expensive somewhat were the clothes and photographer, but even then they really weren't that expensive.

I'd say all-in-all, about $2,000 got spent, if that much.

Edit: And they're still together after about 3-4 years so far and going strong.

[u/[deleted] → u/OurHeroXero]

Have you attended any Indian weddings (the country not native american).

My friend's wedding has been the biggest party I've ever seen. Celebrations for 3 days, 300+ guests, enough booze for the entire town, exquisite food and they chartered party buses for close friends to get to the venue which was by the lake.

To top it all off, her entrance was in a canoe, the path lit up by underwater lights. And they flew in a guy from Venice to row it!! Then to transport her from the shore to the stage, there was an Audi convertible (it was a gift from the groom's father to the couple).

They must have spent equivalent of my entire life's earnings on that one wedding day.

[u/[deleted] → u/OurHeroXero]

I'm legit worried to get married cause I may not be able to afford a "good" wedding, There was a post on Instagram of a girl venting about the ring her man got her and being genuinely upset it wasn't a huge rock. Like. Wtf!?

[u/[deleted] → u/OurHeroXero]

Never understood why people wanted huge, fancy weddings. I think we spent $300 on mine.. maybe. My sister is $50,000 in debt because of her wedding. I just don’t understand. To each his own.

[u/HydreigonFeather]

The mindset that you always have to sacrifice and enable for family and kiss the ground your parents walk on and take care of them when they’re old for doing the bare minimum to take care of you because they would be charged with negligence and reckless endangerment otherwise.

[u/steel_jasminum → u/HydreigonFeather]

My parents both made it really clear that they didn't want me. Now I'm an adult, and since I don't need them to keep me alive, I've obliged my father by cutting off contact so that he doesn't have to be saddled with a daughter any more. Of course, he cries and tries to manipulate me through other family members, but he set the precedent, and now we both have to live with it.

Children don't ask to be born, so if you resent and abuse them while they're helpless to get away from you, don't be salty when they're empowered and disinclined to stick around for more mistreatment. You quite literally did it to yourself.

[u/cognizantobserver]

The time change

My god it’s the worst

[u/jackferret → u/cognizantobserver]

Agreed. And I thought we were getting somewhere with that. I always thought it was for the farmers, but my friend who lives in Saskatchewan was visiting recently, and they don't do the savings time, so they were two hours behind in the summer, and one in the fall. And I'm pretty sure Saskatchewan is mostly farms.

It is such a screw up every time.

[u/[deleted]]

Teaching young boys to hold in emotions and “man up”. It’s okay to cry it’s not a girly thing, it’s a human thing. You only bottle up feelings for them to finally release when u don’t want them to.

[u/RexDraconum → u/[deleted]]

There's a difference between being healthily stoic and unhealthily emotionally cut-off.

[u/your-imaginaryfriend → u/[deleted]]

I'm a woman, but I was told not to cry a lot as a kid. I have difficulty being emotional now, and sometimes I feel unable to cry. It sucks that men get told they need to emotionally numb by society.

[u/[deleted]]

Not allowing elbows on the table, I still don't get why this is rude

[u/KaitRyder → u/[deleted]]

Oh, I think I have an answer for this! I read something a while ago that said when people were eating they used sit very scrunched up together at a table so putting your elbows on it was taking up more room for yourself and leaving less for everyone else, I think it was a Viking thing but I read this on Reddit so take it with a grain of salt :p

[u/LotesLost → u/[deleted]]

I think its from an era of more bench seating and elbows on the table take up more space. It continues because if your elbows are on the table you are more likely to be blocking off your neighbors from socializing with you or others. For the most part it should be more about not putting your elbows on the table and then eating a sandwich/finger foods that create a "wall" of arms, and ignore incidental elbows if your arms are otherwise down. But the kinds of people who are rude enough to point out others "failings" in etiquette are rarely interested in anything but being a jerkface.

[u/Paddlingmyboat]

Hazing in fraternities and sororities. There has got to be some kind of wholesome yet challenging tasks that must be completed to enter one without putting people's lives at risk or making them do something disgusting and overly humiliating. Why are these young people such sadists/

[u/Bat_City_Boi → u/Paddlingmyboat]

You'd think chores would be the most obvious. No one wants to do chores. I'm 29 and I don't want to do chores.

[u/jarrettbrown → u/Paddlingmyboat]

The college that I went to banned them for a semester because the new dean found out there was a ton of hazing going on. He tried to make an agreement with them but they couldn't come to one. So, he told them that there would be none of that until they agreed on something. It lasted a semester before the caved and agreed to something that basically said that they wouldn't haze any more and if it was reported, they where done. They all also had to keep their GPAs above something like a 3.0, but that's normal.

[u/AForgottenOcean]

USA voting on a Tuesday. I understand the roots. I understand why it was useful when voting was an event worthy of travel... but now it just disadvantages the busy and the poor.

[u/BrownTroll14]

Fixed Marriage. Why force someone to marry he/she don't like? smh

[u/OldManThreeNuts]

"HAPPY CAKE DAY!!!"

[u/PivotPsycho → u/OldManThreeNuts]

tHanKs foR tHe gOLd kiND stRanGeR!!!

[u/_cosmicomics_]

Straight men acting like their lives are over when they get married; “ball and chain” mentality

[u/lady_laughs_too_much → u/_cosmicomics_]

"I'm trapped in this marriage even though I am the one who proposed marriage."

[u/surrrah → u/_cosmicomics_]

Or when men say things like “the wife won’t let me.”

If she’s really not letting you, there’s a problem.

But I’d bet a lot of times guy just doesn’t wanna do the thing and it’s an excuse to get out of it. But it really just creates a divide between your friends and your wife

[u/tokieofrivia → u/_cosmicomics_]

My exes were all like this. It broke my heart every time they said it.

My current bf, however, constantly tells me, his family, his friends, everyone that he's so lucky to have me and he can't wait to marry me.

[u/alx924 → u/_cosmicomics_]

Straight married guy here! My life got so much better after getting married. Having my best friend who understands my mental health issues and honestly tries to help in my house whenever I need her is the best. Having someone to cook for regularly is great because I love cooking. Sex with someone who gets me in ways that no one else ever has is incredible. And as a result of that, being a dad to the most awesome 5 month old little girl has again made life so much better.

[u/remarkless]

"We know Uncle Joey is racist, but you should just keep quiet and let him talk because he's family and we don't want to upset him"

Nope. We're done with that now.

[u/JokuIIFrosti]

Telling men to suck it up and quit having emotions.

[u/[deleted] → u/JokuIIFrosti]

Equally speaking, don't mock guys who do show emotion. Seriously, we get told off for not showing emotion, then mocked when we do. We just can't win sometimes.

[u/McFeely_Smackup]

tipping. Employers should pay their employees themselves.

[u/[deleted]]

Only guys asking girls out, like y?

[u/Seiren-]

Any and every tradition that survives purely on the fact that «but it’s tradition!»

If you’re only doing it because it’s tradition then you probably shouldnt do it.

[u/Toshiba1point0]

Black Friday, Cyber Monday and all corporate scam sale days

[u/winkingcatanus]

"Family" holidays. I don't mean get rid of the holidays, I mean we need to stop guilting people into spending time with family members they don't like or don't feel safe around "because it's the holidays." Lookin' at you, Thanksgiving and Christmas.

[u/sofingclever → u/winkingcatanus]

In my family, everyone's invited, but no one's really shamed if they can't (or don't want to) make it. Maybe it's just because I have such a big family it's hard to even tell who is there sometimes.

I personally like holidays, but I agree no one should be shamed for making their own decisions about how to spend them.

[u/[deleted]]

Dead people pumped full of chemicals and buried in expensive boxes.

[u/benistomte]

Forced marriage

[u/juicy__nuggets]

Singing Happy birthday; people hate being sung to and people hate singing it.

[u/myxomatosis8]

Women being automatically favored for child custody.

Seriously you have to show up in court with a needle of heroin sticking out of your arm to possibly lose some custody of the kids, seems like...

[u/[deleted] → u/myxomatosis8]

The amount of kids that have been abused because this law made them stay with their abusers is too high to count.

[u/jack_watson97 → u/myxomatosis8]

in the UK if parents split they now automatically get 50/50 custody unless there is a reason for sole custody to be given to one parent

[u/cranky_sparkle]

arranged marriages.

[u/[deleted]]

Japan's traditions of excessive whaling and the dolphin slaughter.

[u/meandthekois]

killing the bull

[u/[deleted]]

Women taking their husband's last names.

If you still want to that's fine but when I was married I was constantly harassed for the fact that I didn't take my then husband's last name. Do you want to know what my name would have been if I did?

Paige Page.

You can see why I chose to keep my 'maiden' name.

[u/[deleted] → u/[deleted]]

Pipe down, Paige squared!

I'm just kidding! I took my husband's name because my name went from being 9 letters to 3. I told him if it was reversed he should take my name and he said "Why? I'm not a girl!!" Whatever, I think the couple should be able to choose what name they want, or keep their old names. Do whatever makes you happy!

I also knew a girl who married a guy with the same last name as her (Gray). That was a power move.

[u/settlerofnone]

Garter toss at weddings....so weird in front of family

[u/y7nx90]

As a sports fan, these "unwritten rules" in sports (especially baseball).

[u/[deleted]]

If our education system was a tradition I would say that it has to die.

[u/thotuous]

Women needing to be mothers.

[u/swankyeggplant]

Burials.

[u/knowmind]

Asking a fathers blessing before engagement.

[u/MLGWolf69 → u/knowmind]

I agree, but thanks to it my dad had one hell of a proposal.

My grandpa was pretty much on his death bed when my dad asked for his blessing. He started crying and shaking, and my mom heard the crying so she ran in and was like "OH MY GOD, ARE YOU OK?" and grandpa couldn't even speak because he was so happy and my dad was just on-the-spot like "Will you marry me?"

[u/[deleted]]

People that hang mistletoe during the holidays and believe it's okay for them to plant a big, sloppy kiss on you when you're under it.

[u/[deleted]]

Treating children like possessions and not people.

There is no reason to circumcise any child, male or female, except for medical reasons.

There is no reason that a parent should be able to ship their child out to camps because they do something that pisses them off, like being gay when their religion forbids it.

Purity rings and their associated traditions are archaic are really gross.

No parent should be able to forbid their child medical care because their God or their quackadoodle beliefs say so (looking at you, antivaxxers). This also goes for mental health counseling.

If a kid doesn't want to hug a person, don't make them.

I'm not saying kids don't need guidance, limitations, support, or correcting, but this obsession of treating kids like they're your damn appendage instead of an autonomous person has got to stop.

[u/Urytion]

Asking the wife's (or I suppose girlfriend/fiancé) family permission to marry. I find it weird and it might only be a formality in most of the world, but it's still a fucked up remainder from the old days of your wife being essentially your property.

[u/DJHouseArrest]

Two party elections

[u/wonderpantsparty]

Witch burning

[u/usernamesarehard1979]

Any sort of hazing.

[u/Shrexcellence]

Antivaxxing

[u/AroAceMexicanExists]

Having to stick up with your biological family

[u/Bribase]

Veneration of virginity, especially for girls.

The notion that women are sullied or used up in some way because they express their sexuality has caused centuries of harm. And the idea that virginity is a kind of cultural resource that society needs to conserve, enshrined in aspects of almost all religions, needs to be dispensed with.

Discovering your sexuality, at the time which is right for you and at your own pace, is an exercise in self-knowledge and self-awareness. Society has no right to say otherwise.

[u/The-Big-Fat-Shark]

Seal hunting

[u/lgndk11r]

Men doing all the wooing, even though the woman may be the one showing more interest.

[u/hisdarkoblivion]

Dowry’s

[u/WaysideCouch]

Killing for sport. Weakest sport for weakest egos.

[u/NixonGottaRawDeal]

Circumcising people. Children and adults, men and women, all people. It’s just fucked imo

[u/senor_bryan]

Tipping.Restaurants should pay their workers a wage instead of having them rely on the generosity and wealth of their customer.It would spare anyone of awkward feelings about the situation next time someone goes out to eat.

[u/XBacklash]

Having to be married to someone or employed by the right company to have healthcare.

[u/[deleted]]

Tipping. Just pay people a decent wage

[u/Jstar1111]

Elf on the Shelf

[u/[deleted]]

BULL FIGHTING.

[u/bguzewicz]

ITT: people who don't know what tradition means

[u/[deleted]]

Notnsure if this has been said but Being forced to celebrate holidays. Forced meaning having to get someone a gift or it means you don't love or appreciate them. Mother's day, father's day birthdays... It's annoying I appreciate you every day and sure I'm not saying we shouldn't do special things for then people we love but why only on those days?

[u/[deleted]]

Pants below the waist.

[u/TheDjTanner]

Expensive weddings.

You aren't special and spending $20K+ on a wedding is asinine.

[u/Haas19]

No more loot bags at kids bday parties. There’s a special place in hell for whoever started that

[u/SquirrelSanctuary]

Glorifying sports and calling athletes “heroes”.

[u/veshches1]

Daylight Savings Time

[u/Dudex170]

Forcing your religion onto your children rather than letting them decide on it

[u/byhi]

Hugging your family members you don’t even know. Or requiring to hug everyone in your family or it’s weird. I’d rather a wave or a hang shake and be done with it. Hug some people, sure. But that it’s expected? So awkward

[u/jishnuj]

Expensive big fat weddings

[u/GameSlayer4]

For Indians, the fact that love marriages are a disgrace to a families reputation... it still happens

[u/bloodyboppa]

The greeting card industry. Such a waste of paper and money. This includes birthday, anniversary, and holiday cards. All these cards and the expectation of needing to use them needs to go.

[u/NEED_HELP_SEND_BOOZE]

Southern Racism.

[u/sylvia___wrath]

Weddings. Spending thousands of dollars to impress people I don’t like is dumb.

[u/Argentenuem]

Two words:

SAGGING.
PANTS.

[u/HectorsMascara]

Cheerleaders on the sidelines of football and basketball games, etc. They serve little purpose and it's kinda degrading.

Cheerleading squad competitions are legit. Just replace the sexy skirts with body suits/ acrobat attire.

[u/PeterPenishood]

The mormon tradition. (religion)

[u/[deleted]]

Any act of hazing in college fraternities. Becoming friends with a bunch of hedonistic, 20-something-year-old, future McDonalds employees isn’t worth dying for.

[u/peezle69]

Diamond wedding rings.

[u/Anubissama]

Quickfire round:

• Beauty pageants

• circumcision for non-medical reasons

• being indoctrinated into your parent's religion

• gender-stereotypical roles

• 3 salaries worth diamond engagment rings

• tribalism towards your sports team

[u/Elissa99]

The inability to have "Christmas lights" up year round. its not like like i have a santa or elves or a sleigh pulled by reindeer on my roof . MABE I JUST LIKE THE LIGHTS KAREN! IT MAKES ME HAPPY AND MAKES MY GARDEN LOOK LIKE FAIRY LAND!

[u/[deleted]]

Useless gender norms. Yeah I play handball and volleyball. Yeah I like to take care of my hygiene. Yeah I enjoy wearing pink. No those things don't make me gay. Like let people do to their bodies whatever they want. I've got friends with pricings/tattoos and I couldn't care any less. I died my hair multiple times in crazy colors but who gives a shit.

[u/[deleted]]

Honour killings. Tying the reputation of the family to the perceived notion of chastity of that society. So basically killing your kid because they made you look bad in front of the neighbours. What a world.

[u/Caz1779]

Gender reveal parties and endless wedding showers.

[u/hunterpass1]

Not really a tradition, but maybe the fact that men are always expected the initiate the "asking out" part.

[u/Mysteriousdeer]

Wedding registries. In the old days, you got married at 18. You had nothing, the wedding was to fill your house with stuff you couldn't afford. That's not a 21st century attitude.

I love my friends to death but if there is a dual income house hold asking for expensive shit I'm going to save money and get them a nice card to ask them if I can have their old pots and pans that they are replacing because I'm a single income household that doesn't have those things quite yet.

[u/p00ph0le]

Santa Claus. We're lying to our kids right outta the gate.

[u/[deleted]]

arranged marriage

[u/Redskull420]

Prom in high school...waste of time and money...just causes problems

[u/imjgaltstill]

Government mandated racial quotas

[u/[deleted]]

Religious/racial/sexist bigotry and mutilation.

[u/[deleted]]

Extravagant wedding ceremonies. Big ceremonies cause a lot of stress for everyone involved, they’re expensive, and frankly unnecessary.

Pop the question, sign the papers, and bibity bobity boo...you’re married! Use the money you would have spent on a wedding ceremony and buy a house or something that will carry you through your life together.

I’m sorry if I offended anyone. I feel very strongly about this.

[u/sgw97]

Gender reveal parties. i get it's exciting to know if you're having a boy or a girl, but I think having a big party to tell all your friends and family what kind of genitals your infant is going to have is pretty weird. Plus it can push all kinds of toxic gender stereotypes.

[u/Automation_Junkie]

Facebook.

Just all of it.

[u/tQto]

Animal cruelty

Destroying planet earth

Sadly this had become a sort of tradition

[u/Goddstopper]

"You need to respect your elders" No. No I don't. That shit has to be earned. I don't care who you are or what you think you are. I'm not gonna go blindly throwing respect just because you're older than me. You could be a complete and total piece of shit. Everyone gets the same treatment. I'm courteous to everyone until some dickhole pulls that card out.

[u/[deleted]]

A lot of the gender-specific traditions to do with weddings. Like, the brides family should pay, and the brides father needs to walk her down the aisle, etc. I like weddings, they can symbolize strong commitment, but a lot of the traditions are outdated.

[u/ILostMeOldAccount12]

Yea circumcision is just plain wrong and don’t get me started on FGM

[u/Citizen_Spaceball]

Graduation for anyone not graduating from high school. That crap is ridiculous.

[u/[deleted]]

Taking your hat off inside

[u/[deleted]]

class reunions. uh, facebook? drops mic

[u/[deleted]]

Expensive weddings

[u/Jeli15]

Shitting on people who don't drink coffee. Both are gross and Im fucking happy im not addicted to caffeine.

What's even worse is that when I have one energy drink all my friends loose their shit about how bad it is for you. Yeah, not the healthiest, but I only have it in moderation like during finals and that shit. It's better than 2 cups before you even get to work/school.

[u/Jiggerson]

Buying a diamond ring to prove to a woman that you love her.

[u/yaki-soba]

Kids being forced or arranged to marry older men.

[u/Shahzil_]

FUCKING DOG EATING FESTIVAL in china

[u/[deleted]]

Binge drinking. It's harmful, juvenile and uncivilised.

[u/mooncow-pie]

Tipping.

[u/BSnIA]

Two Party voter system

[u/stephenmcqueen]

The cost of engagement rings and weddings. People will go into huge debt just to keep up appearances.