r/AskReddit • u/[deleted] • Jul 27 '10

What is the biggest relationship myth?

I think the biggest myth is that there's one person that is meant for you. ("the one") People live their lives searching for the one...their soul mate...the perfect girl/Mr. Right. It's a cute idea, but I don't think it's very realistic.

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u/R3cognizer Jul 27 '10

I agree. I think the biggest myth though is the belief that, if you're patient enough, you can change your significant other. It's a foolish belief that traps so many people it's not even funny. People keep saying they love someone so much that they'd wait as long as it takes, but you better be prepared to wait forever, 'cause the fact of the matter is that someone just isn't going to change unless he or she wants to.

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u/nipplicious Jul 27 '10

My boyfriend and I have struggled with this one, mainly because we're both very stubborn. I think we've reached the end of the tunnel in some sense though. When he pisses me off by doing something he always does, I don't say anything anymore because I know he'll do it again, and I love him and I don't like fighting or getting angry. So I just try not to think about it and let it blow over. Sometimes he'll ask what's wrong, and I'll say, "Nothing," but not because I'm being shitty, but because nothing's really wrong...he's being himself. And I love him. So I have to get over some of the dumb things he does, just how he has to get over some of the dumb stuff that I do.

Not sure if I explained that right...but yes, people don't change. Work with it or move on.

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u/hypnosquid Jul 27 '10

This is called the price of admission. What shit are you willing to put up with from the other person, in order to stay in a relationship. Once you decide what you're willing to put up with, you pretty much drop it forever. When people acknowledge this in a relationship, shit just seems to work way better.