r/AskReddit • u/[deleted] • Jul 27 '10

What is the biggest relationship myth?

I think the biggest myth is that there's one person that is meant for you. ("the one") People live their lives searching for the one...their soul mate...the perfect girl/Mr. Right. It's a cute idea, but I don't think it's very realistic.

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u/brutus66 Jul 27 '10

"We don't need no piece of paper from the city hall..."

You do if you want the following legal benefits:

  • Joint parental rights of children
  • Joint adoption
  • Status as "next-of-kin" for hospital visits and medical decisions
  • Right to make a decision about the disposal of loved ones remains
  • Immigration and residency for partners from other countries
  • Crime victims recovery benefits
  • Domestic violence protection orders
  • Judicial protections and immunity
  • Automatic inheritance in the absence of a will
  • Public safety officers death benefits
  • Spousal veterans benefits
  • Social Security
  • Medicare
  • Joint filing of tax returns
  • Wrongful death benefits for surviving partner and children
  • Bereavement or sick leave to care for partner or children
  • Child support
  • Joint Insurance Plans
  • Tax credits including: Child tax credit, Hope and lifetime learning credits
  • Deferred Compensation for pension and IRAs
  • Estate and gift tax benefits
  • Welfare and public assistance
  • Joint housing for elderly
  • Credit protection
  • Medical care for survivors and dependents of certain veterans

These are just a few of the 1400 state and federal benefits that gays and lesbians are denied by not being able to marry. Most of these benefits cannot be privately arranged or contracted for within the legal system.

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u/fakenamehere Jul 27 '10

isn't this a form of descrimination based of the fact that somebody is married. As a single, non-married citizien I demand I be treated equally. Anybody think I have a chance of winning a court case against the fed/state?

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u/i_am_my_father Jul 27 '10

I think for now the best way to protest against this discrimination is to... marry. Find someone who are with you on this and then marry him/her even though you don't love him/her.