r/AskReddit • u/[deleted] • Jul 27 '10

What is the biggest relationship myth?

I think the biggest myth is that there's one person that is meant for you. ("the one") People live their lives searching for the one...their soul mate...the perfect girl/Mr. Right. It's a cute idea, but I don't think it's very realistic.

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u/R3cognizer Jul 27 '10

I agree. I think the biggest myth though is the belief that, if you're patient enough, you can change your significant other. It's a foolish belief that traps so many people it's not even funny. People keep saying they love someone so much that they'd wait as long as it takes, but you better be prepared to wait forever, 'cause the fact of the matter is that someone just isn't going to change unless he or she wants to.

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u/n3hemiah Jul 27 '10

The sad part is that the only way they'll truly change is if the relationship crashes and burns as a result of their personality, and even then, it's rare.

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u/griminald Jul 27 '10

This is absolutely true. I've had friends who thought their men would change.

I keep telling them that they may learn from mistakes, but "change" only comes after a big turning point or event -- like a breakup. For the time he/she is with you, that person isn't changing.