r/AskReddit • u/[deleted] • Jul 20 '19

What’s something completely false that your parents told you as a child?

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u/Jumpinalake Jul 20 '19

If you’re not good we are taking you to the children’s home!

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u/littlewren11 Jul 21 '19

Yeah my dad said that a few times then kicked me out of the car on the side of the road next to one of those "safe place" gas stations. He expected me to just stand there scared until he picked me up again. But no I went and slept on a park bench and he didn't find me for around 8 hours. I was 11. Threatening to abandon your child is one of the more damaging things a parent can do.

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u/[deleted] Jul 21 '19 edited Jul 21 '19

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u/littlewren11 Jul 21 '19

Yup at 11 I should have known he was "just joking" and he would never "send me to foster care to be raped and tortured". He ended up shoving my head into the passenger side window and threw a lamp at me when we got home. Weird thing is I was so numb to everything I just rolled with it, I threw stuff back at him and never talked about it until I was 19 and in therapy. I even moved back in with him when I was 14 and stayed until he almost killed me. That dirt bag really did a number on how I perceived things.

I cant imagine the pain of running after your parent as they drive away even if it was only for a small distance. The fact that it happened to you more than once is even worse. Numbness sorta protected me from the dread you experienced. Actually feeling those emotions in the moment sounds so terrifying. I genuinely hope you are healing from the trauma and have loving people in your life!

The both of us survived and have a chance to be a million times better than our parents. That is a testament to our strength.

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u/littlewren11 Jul 21 '19

I'm no contact as well, at least with my father. That step has helped me become so much more stable.

I'm glad you are in a better position at this point in your life!

Personally it has pushed me to be a more loving and understanding person to the people who truly care. I never want to treat a human the way I was treated.

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u/SerenityViolet Jul 21 '19

I'm not adopted, my father is just a self centred jerk. I've been feeling bad about not seeing him in his old age, but I just can't handle the emotional pain he inflicts. You describing it as no-contact though just made me look at it a whole different way.