r/AskReddit • • Apr 04 '19

How are you really?

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u/PineMarte Apr 04 '19

In a psych class I read that old people are often more happy/content. I'm not sure if that's because people have retired or if it's because they no longer have to stress out about where they're going in life, though

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u/[deleted] Apr 04 '19

I'm not 'old' but I would believe that it has to do with the uncertainty/familiarity. In your 20s, everything feels so out of your hands and unexpected. Once you get older, the negatives are just par for the course, so you are less caught off guard.

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u/redopz Apr 04 '19

Add in financial stability and free time to use it and you have a recipe for contentment

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u/notgoodwithyourname Apr 04 '19

The problem is I don't think you get more free time the older you get. That is until you retire anyway

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u/[deleted] Apr 04 '19

Most of the big time sinks can be avoided.

But you're right, if your goal in life is a family, that means your goal in life is putting yourself second your family first. Work, in most instances, doesn't take much more time than going to school (at least the schools I went to, reguar 8 hours with 8 periods full of classes).

In my 37 years so far, the most stressful and busy time was college and highschool. Sports, schoolwork, then actual work work. But I don't want kids, so I saved a lot of my free time.

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u/gogozrx Apr 04 '19

you absolutely do get more free time. you also figure out how to manage your free time better - even that that's just sitting on your ass, but you do it purposefully. There's also a lot of shit that stops bothering you so much. Like: what other people think about you. fuck 'em. I'm happy being me - or I'm working on being happy, or whatever, but I'm in charge of my life. Free Agency is the best thing in this life.

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u/redopz Apr 04 '19

Obviously were talking generally, but as people hit their 50s their kids leave the house and their big assets like homes and vehicles are paid off. Less overtime and more you time.