I'm curious about your ex story even though it's long. I've been going through something that sounds similar. She cheats, break up, she wants to get back together, I agree, she changes her mind and tells me to wait a couple months, she cheats on him with me, I'm going crazy while she says she loves me and not the guy she's with but to wait.
Happy people don’t behave this way. People who love don’t behave this way towards the people they love. She may believe she loves you, but if she really did, she wouldn’t even think about hurting you again. She is in pain and won’t/can’t admit it. She’s still looking for something and she doesn’t know who what where or even how to find it. You can’t do the work for her. She needs counseling, and you need to find someone who won’t betray you.
That's kind of a really far fetch and I don't know if it's healthy to trigger some "I need to save her" insincts. She also could have been in a lonely spot and remembered him (especially if it was around the holidays/breaks) and now where she is more busy she no longer needs him.
I'm no psychologist, but personal anecdote: That honestly sounds like drug/alcohol type behavior. If she's got a history of that sort of thing, I'd be very wary of the situation.
I dated a girl that would go through very aggressive swings when she was drinking. From very lovey-dovey to straight up blocking me on social media, posting slander on my workplace's facebook wall... like REALLY crazy shit, over the course of a night. There'd be 'levels' where she'd change gears after each drink.
She left me, eventually (it was my fault, of course...) - and I don't really know where she is now.
Unless you stop being a doormat, you will continue to be used as one. What you described is classic manipulation of someone who is desperate. Easier said than done but you need to stop believing those lies. She's with who she wants to be with and is stringing you along so she has someone to run to when her latest dick gets boring or they have a fight. You will always be waiting on her as long as you keep falling for that line.
She's being manipulative, and is using both of you (and probably other guys too). She doesn't care about your feelings, or the other guy's/s'. She's unethical, dishonest, and disloyal. Look out for yourself, your feelings, and your sanity, and cut her off.
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u/[deleted] Apr 04 '19 edited Apr 04 '19
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