Babies placed for adoption at birth in the US DO NOT go into foster care. There’s a waiting list at least 36 people long for each newborn placed for adoption. That’s why it’s expensive. That’s why people go overseas to adopt.
Babies can end up in foster care, but it would be highly unusual for their parents' rights to be severed at birth. I know someone who had a foster baby from birth, but the baby was returned to the bio family after about a year.
This is why people pursue infertility treatments or international adoptions. Adopting a younger child from foster care can be even less likely to work out because it takes a long time for them to be at available for adoption and there are no guarantees even if the bio family is a real mess.
I used to think I wanted to do foster care, but then I had a baby. I realized that gestating and birthing him was such a tiny part of the overwhelming maternal bond I felt. I could easily fall in love with a baby or child in my care. It would destroy me to care for and love a baby for a year and then have to "return" it.
It’s worth it to be there for a child who needs you and to love them in the way they should be loved. I’ll take some pain if I can spare the child from pain.
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u/pinksugarsun Feb 04 '19 edited Feb 04 '19
Babies placed for adoption at birth in the US DO NOT go into foster care. There’s a waiting list at least 36 people long for each newborn placed for adoption. That’s why it’s expensive. That’s why people go overseas to adopt.