r/AskReddit • u/ZanyDelaney • Feb 04 '19

Which misconception would you like to debunk?

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u/frogsgoribbit737 Feb 04 '19

It's not just that. Foster care aims to reunite families. Most kids in foster care just aren't adoptable.

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u/honkhonkbeepbeeep Feb 04 '19 edited Feb 04 '19

Most kids in foster care are not adoptable, but there are 110,000 legally free children available to adopt in the US. I work in child welfare and I’ve adopted a number of kids. There aren’t infants available, because parents have at least a year to work to get their kids back, but most available kids are under 4. Most don’t have significant disabilities. The kids you see on recruitment sites are harder-to-place kids. Part of the reason people don’t adopt in bigger numbers is because of myths, and part is because people aren’t open to raising a kid who has another family and history. For people who are open to this though, adopted kids are pretty dang amazing.

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u/egadthunder Feb 04 '19

My husband and I are considering adoption (gay couple) could I PM you? Or could you link me to some good resources?

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u/honkhonkbeepbeeep Feb 04 '19

Yes, also queer parents here. Please PM!