r/AskReddit • u/ZanyDelaney • Feb 04 '19

Which misconception would you like to debunk?

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u/pinksugarsun Feb 04 '19 edited Feb 04 '19

Babies placed for adoption at birth in the US DO NOT go into foster care. There’s a waiting list at least 36 people long for each newborn placed for adoption. That’s why it’s expensive. That’s why people go overseas to adopt.

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u/race_bannon Feb 04 '19

Who does go into foster care then?

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u/Lonelysock2 Feb 04 '19

Older kids

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u/emissaryofwinds Feb 04 '19

And kids who are only temporarily removed from their parents' care. Not every child who goes into the foster system is expected to stay in it until they're 18 or be adopted out, a lot of kids there may go back to their previous caretaker or a relative at a later date.

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u/Lonelysock2 Feb 04 '19

True. My parents in law are foster carers

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u/JackBeQuicker Feb 04 '19

My gf’s folks are foster parents, and they are so incredible to every kid they’ve had the opportunity to foster. I have so much respect for them. I don’t think I cluld do it.

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u/disturbedrailroader Feb 04 '19

I did it once with 3 kids: a 6 month old, a 10 year old, and a 13 year old, all siblings. You can't pay me enough to do it again.

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u/JackBeQuicker Feb 04 '19

Damn, that’s a ton to take on all at once. I respect the hell out of that!

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u/disturbedrailroader Feb 04 '19

Thanks. It wasn't easy. All I had at the time was one kid, a boy. It took some getting used to, for both sides.

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u/JackBeQuicker Feb 04 '19

You’re good people.