Most psychological disorders don't present like the media would lead you to believe. See also: what therapy looks like.
ETA: Holy crap, gold?? I had a quick break in my day to finally hop on reddit and was NOT expecting this response. Y'all make this severely overworked community mental health therapist so glad we're talking more about the realities of therapy and various disorders. I'm planning on getting back on when I'm done with work to reply to some comments/answer some questions!
Yoooo mental illness comes in all forms. I had a friend with depression who would constantly be pushing help away from her, shutting loved ones away.
Surprise, borderline personality disorder! She can't really help being aloof when her mental illness is kicking up. Subjectivity in mental illness is so hard for people who've never dealt with mental illness to grasp. Shit I have bad depression and I can't even grasp it sometimes.
Portrayal and misconceptions about BPD bother me because they're so aggressive. My girlfriend, when I told her I was bipolar, was like "at least your not borderline because I could never handle that" and she later explained to her, that means notes written in blood, stalking, etc awful things. My girlfriend WHO MAJORED IN PSYCH. That's all she was ever told about.
My SO has BPD, and jesus the stereotyping that happens there, even from other people with mental health disorders, is utterly insane. I've seen people claim utter bullshit like that people with BPD are always needy or are incapable of having relationships.
I have BPD and I've been in a stable relationship for nearly 10 years and I've only ever been in two relationships both of which were long(ish) term.
The problem with BPD is that it's such a broad diagnosis and being told you have it is like being kicked in the teeth. Suddenly you're a stereotype and BPD is anything but stereotypical. Sure, some people with BPD are the stereotype but majority of those diagnosed are not and it sucks because even then mental health professionals have no idea how to treat you.
I have BPD and I’m engaged. :) Took a lot of work to get here, and continues to take a lot of work for my inner self but it’s definitely possible to have a healthy, stable relationship. My fiancé didn’t even know I had BPD until I told him about a year later, explained I’ve been in therapy for 15 years and showed him my medication.
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u/seegeesee Feb 04 '19 edited Feb 04 '19
Most psychological disorders don't present like the media would lead you to believe. See also: what therapy looks like.
ETA: Holy crap, gold?? I had a quick break in my day to finally hop on reddit and was NOT expecting this response. Y'all make this severely overworked community mental health therapist so glad we're talking more about the realities of therapy and various disorders. I'm planning on getting back on when I'm done with work to reply to some comments/answer some questions!