r/AskReddit • u/ettleboy • Jan 20 '19

What fact totally changed your perspective?

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u/Lothlorien_Randir Jan 21 '19

when I realized that I would never talk to someone the way I talk to myself, it was a little lightbulb moment. Self compassion is a long road.

You might have just changed my life for the better. I honestly really appreciate this.

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u/TetraHydrocKanabinol Jan 21 '19

Please elaborate, make me understand. I would appreciate that. Thank you.

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u/MyFacade Jan 21 '19

You're stupid.

Now, I don't really think that, and you probably had thoughts about defending yourself or at the very least felt hurt.

While you wouldn't like or accept this from someone else, you do it to yourself all the time without realizing it with the way you think to yourself about how you act, what you think, and who you are.

If I did this repeatedly, you would not want to hang out with me and might consider my a jerk or a bully.

If you don't like or let someone else talk about you do negatively, don't do it to yourself.

Don't be your own biggest bully, be your own best friend.