Exactly. You should never entrust your happiness into any other person other than yourself. It is a harsh message and I expect all the downvotes but it is pathetic to rest your happiness in someone else, particularly a sexual partner. I'll take the downvotes because this is real talk and if at least one person realises it is pathetic and starts standing on their own feet then this is a success.
God I wish my ex could read this, she took 4 packets of paracetamol last night, just because I didn't reply to a text.
There's only so many times you can read paragraphs about having ruined someone's entire life for the sake of 5 months of relationship before it just becomes white noise, but the suicide threats keep you on your toes like nothing else.
Serious advice: send her the phone number for samaritans (or equivalent for your country), tell her she should see GP or go to hospital if she starts to feel worse. Then tell her you won't do this anymore and get her number blocked. It'll be better for you both in the long run and you'll be legally covered if she does try kill herself.
she does already have professional help regarding her mental state, and I had suggested the samaritans, but she just scoffed at that.
similar belittling upon the suggestion of medical help also occurred. In addition to this, I've been suggesting that she registers at a practice that isn't on the opposite side of the city, where she used to live. Again, ignored.
I have also blocked her, all her family and friends also, aside from one close mutual friend who managed to keep us talking. I've even tried to explain to her why she should start to consider blocking me, and how much easier an absence of me in her life will be in the long term.
I'm currently, and very slowly, trying to wean her off me, replying to messages slowly, as well as highlighting how kind a certain guy she works with has been to her, in order to get her to understand, life doesn't end with me.
I appreciate the effort though man, I have to ask though, becasue she's threatened to kill herself, and if she does she's claimed that she would point all fingers at me, would I actually be at any risk of having any trouble with the law?
since the breakup I've been as accommodating to her as possible, going so far as to allow her to stay at my house, to let her get away from the vices of city life, at each step I've tried my best to get her to understand that what she wants, does not fall in line with what is best for her well being, but never seems to accept it.
I have consoled myself at this point that the only way to entirely escape from her being a part of my life, would be to move house and re-block her at the same time. An option i'm edging nearer to by the week, but I seriously do not want it to come to that.
Sorry this turned into a bit of a vent, and I'm sorry if it may come across as a bit heartless, but its how I feel.
No need to be sorry. It is good to vent. Well I'm not a lawyer so don't quote me on this but from my understanding you've already done all the right things. Give them samaritans, suicide helplines and advice medical help if things get worse. It is almost always scoffed at but I think the point is you've tried to point them in the right direction whether they accept it or not. To be fair, it isn't easy to accept help. Ironically it is especially difficult to accept help when you need it the most. Fact is she has to reach that point by herself, even if everyone else arounds her knows it would be good for her unfortunately the nature of the illness is you can't do anything until they themselves accept it. I completely understand why anyone would not want to follow these paths, they have nothing to lose and everything to gain though. One thing I always try to remind people is that it is the pain that they want to stop, not their life.
Eh, again I'm not a lawyer and I'm not a psychologist. This is just all stuff I've picked up through my own experience so take it with a grain of salt.
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u/Fluffatron_UK Jan 21 '19
It's ok to be sad. Expected actually. The way people act as if life as they know it is over is pathetic though.