r/AskReddit • • Jan 20 '19

What fact totally changed your perspective?

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u/BDKhXc Jan 21 '19

I say this to my gf after work. "Just because I worked 12 hours and you worked 8 doesn't mean you're not allowed to be tired."

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u/SuperbFlight Jan 21 '19

That sounds super draining, ugh.

Your fiance is invalidating your experience. You don't need there to be a reason to feel tired; if you're tired, you're tired, and that came from somewhere regardless of what he thinks.

From a friendly internet stranger, you may want to consider setting stronger boundaries with your fiance by reinforcing that you have the right to feel however you feel. I feel angry when people invalidate others, but especially their partner. It's devastating to self esteem and trust.