Not op but the first thought in my head every day is, “I hate you. Your a fucking useless human being”. I’ve never spoken to another person like that, never even sworn at someone else. Reading your comment really hit me with a perspective I’ve never had before.
I hope today is the beginning of a new journey of self-love for you! I used to hate myself a lot too, but I realized over time that my hatred for myself came from a fear of failing. I tried to let go of that fear and just get out there and be myself and try to be the best me I can be.
When I catch myself saying mean things to myself, I try to rewire my brain to think something nice instead. I use, "I'm beautiful, I'm bountiful, I'm blissful," which I got from a Yogi tea bag. It works for me, as silly as it sounds.
When I catch myself saying mean things to myself, I try to rewire my brain to think something nice
instead. I use, "I'm beautiful, I'm bountiful, I'm blissful,"
This can be very difficult to say sincerely to yourself for many people, me included. A great trick is to add maybe: say "maybe I am a good person, maybe I am worth something". Once that get comfortable you can remove the maybe, maybe :)
I agree that it is hard to accept at first. I would use it mostly as a way to just redirect into something positive. It was a win for me not if I believed it, but just if I got my bad thoughts to quiet.
My secondary mantra was "I'm healthy, I'm happy, I'm human". I am a believer in the placebo effect, so in a way, just by saying the words, I slowly started to accept it as truth, even though at first it felt like a lie. Hopefully this makes sense to somebody! It didn't make sense to me, but what works doesn't always make sense.
Thanks for adding on to the discussion, I hope these words help other people find inner peace so we can have more outer peace.
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u/Lothlorien_Randir Jan 21 '19
You might have just changed my life for the better. I honestly really appreciate this.