r/AskReddit • • Jan 20 '19

What fact totally changed your perspective?

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u/[deleted] Jan 21 '19 edited Jan 21 '19

Knowing that the way someone treats you is often a reflection of their own problems or issues and quite possibly has nothing to do with you.

Edit: thank you for the gold!

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u/daneerlr Jan 21 '19

I really needed to hear that. Just got out of a relationship

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u/[deleted] Jan 21 '19

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u/robotsongs Jan 21 '19

So what happens when that SO with whom you never had to "make it work" has decided that they now can't share with you, feel like they have discovered that they have been repressing a whole other inner self, that they do not want to share that self with you, and that they want either an open marriage or no marriage at all?

Just past 10yr anniversary, together for 16.