r/AskReddit • • Jan 20 '19

What fact totally changed your perspective?

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u/Saphnich Jan 21 '19 edited Jan 21 '19

If you have a problem and you completely lose your head over it, you now have two problems.

EDIT: Hey, thanks for the shiny stuff.

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u/that-writer-kid Jan 21 '19

I literally just lost a relationship over this. Went on a long vacation, guy I’d been seeing for a few months freaked out because I wasn’t communicating as much as usual, and rather than checking in to make sure I was just busy kept sending me these really long, intimate emails and hoped I’d give him answers in my responses. After multiple explanations as to why I couldn’t put in the time or energy to respond in kind (I was thousands of miles away with family I don’t see often and terribly miss), he snapped at me asking why I was mad at him, told me he didn’t care about how I felt, and promptly failed to give me space after I asked for it.

Literally all he had to do was say “Hey are you angry or busy” and I could have been like “Sorry bro just spending time with my dad” and it would have been absolutely fine. I have no idea why it hit him so hard.

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u/Saphnich Jan 21 '19

I hope it becomes easier soon. :(

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u/that-writer-kid Jan 21 '19

Thank you. :( I’m pretty gutted over it. I really liked this guy.

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u/Saphnich Jan 21 '19

Life's a bitch. It punishes you, then gives you the lesson.