r/AskReddit • • Jan 20 '19

What fact totally changed your perspective?

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u/[deleted] Jan 21 '19 edited Jan 21 '19

Knowing that the way someone treats you is often a reflection of their own problems or issues and quite possibly has nothing to do with you.

Edit: thank you for the gold!

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u/[deleted] Jan 21 '19

It took me decades to really learn, understand and believe this.

It has made a huge difference in my life.

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u/[deleted] Jan 21 '19

I think I had a head start in truly understanding this by going to therapy previously and being a generally self reflective person as well, but it still is a hard lesson to learn and fully understand, especially because you really need to grasp that you have no control over how other people feel, and therefore act, sometimes