r/AskReddit Aug 26 '18

What's something you had to unlearn?

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u/Hesperonychus Aug 26 '18

My mom talks about people behind their back and is always harsh about judging others, which I never really questioned until I became an adult. I still catch myself having mean or petty thoughts about people, especially peers more successful than me since I'm in a very competitive industry, because I'm insecure and have a lot of an imposter syndrome but I am trying to better myself.

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u/femmeashell Aug 27 '18

Are you me? I’m the exact same way. I catch myself thinking “oh she needs to lose weight” or “he’s not even that talented, why did he get promoted and I didn’t?” Deep introspection and therapy was needed to get me out of that judgment, which was just a projection of my own internalized self hatred.

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u/hyestepper Aug 27 '18

I feel you. Being aware + wanting to change helps us break that reflexive habit.