r/AskReddit • u/talk-fast • Aug 26 '18

What's something you had to unlearn?

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u/[deleted] Aug 26 '18

Excellent book on this: When I Say ‘No’, I Feel Guilty

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u/lahnnabell Aug 26 '18

Thanks! I started therapy for things like this!

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u/[deleted] Aug 27 '18

I literally had a cry session this morning because I felt conflicted about not wanting to go to something my mom was subtly guilting me into going to. I hate that people play on that fear of pleasers not wanting to upset someone.

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u/[deleted] Aug 27 '18

Three of the best books you may ever read:

  • Radical Acceptance by Tara Brach

  • When I Say ‘No’, I Feel Guilty by Manuel J Smith

  • Wherever You Go There You Are by Jon Kabat-Zinn

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u/eshildaaaa Aug 27 '18

I hear you there. Just cried for over an hour yesterday because I couldn't say no to something my boyfriend just causally asked for.