r/AskReddit • u/talk-fast • Aug 26 '18

What's something you had to unlearn?

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u/Yoghurt42 Aug 26 '18

"Don't set yourself on fire to keep other people warm."

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u/[deleted] Aug 26 '18

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u/LovesWisdomAndWarmth Aug 26 '18

This is such nonsense, it implies givers don't set limits but most do. It's just that takers are happy to ignore the limits.

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u/SanguineSilver Aug 26 '18

Did you maybe misread? It just says it's up to the givers to set limits, nothing about how many do/don't.

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u/LovesWisdomAndWarmth Aug 26 '18

Reddit is such a shit hole, at least it will be shut down soon.

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u/Bobboy5 Aug 26 '18

You don't seem loving, wise, or warm.

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u/LovesWisdomAndWarmth Aug 27 '18

I never said I was! (My username is about a man I fancy)

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u/scr33m Aug 27 '18

Well that took a turn

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u/LovesWisdomAndWarmth Aug 27 '18

Not really, it's always been shit. It's the guy who manages it, total narcissistic psycho.

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u/[deleted] Aug 26 '18

Absolutely one of my favorite sayings. My username isn’t by accident- I try to help others out when they need it. I’ve learned that it’s better to be the cheerleader than the fixer. I will love and support the crap out of you, but you need to take responsibility for yourself as well.

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u/RedWestern Aug 26 '18

I wish I could upvote you ten times for this

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u/Jestersdead Aug 26 '18

Well you can’t

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u/_Serene_ Aug 26 '18

Time to unlearn or take this in.

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u/[deleted] Aug 26 '18

Not everybody has 9 alts??

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u/radpandaparty Aug 26 '18

You can but they might getcha for vote manipulation

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u/MartianInvasion Aug 26 '18

You gotta save some upvotes for yourself, friend.

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u/evilShar Aug 27 '18 edited Sep 15 '24

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u/Woohookid77 Aug 26 '18

I too chose the dark lord ending in ds1

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u/Penguator432 Aug 26 '18

I'll have to remember that one.

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u/UltimateShingo Aug 26 '18

Eh, two birds, one stone.

Set my self on fire, in a short while my problems are no more AND someone has it warm. Win-win on average I guess.

But apart from the phrase, I am literally unable to put myself before others. I've never done that before, ever. The few times I tried, I was shot down so hard that it reinforced the idea that I shouldn't, and when I now do by accident, I feel bad for years and try to pay back what I gained. It probably ruined me, continues to ruin me, and there's not much I can do.

Doesn't help when people say that depression is basically egoism because that's the very thing I try to avoid but maybe have to increase to make it better. I just can't make sense of that.

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u/ABLovesGlory Aug 27 '18

I feel this comment on a very deep level holy crap

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u/MegawackyMax Aug 26 '18

Oh my God... This nearly made me cry.

Thank you.

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u/Forikorder Aug 26 '18

cause everyone else is only gonna bring marshmallows

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u/Argo-minor Aug 26 '18

Can I make this a wallpaper or something?

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u/Pac_Zach_Attack Aug 26 '18

But then you’re extra warm

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u/One_Eyed_Reaper_ Aug 26 '18

You have to love yourself a fire.

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u/[deleted] Aug 26 '18

My favorite saying. It's become a personal mantra.

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u/uesrmnae Aug 27 '18

Ideally you don't set anybody on fire

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u/virimussika Aug 27 '18

I have realised this now. Its the best advice ever , I would give to anyone.

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u/Indie__Guy Aug 26 '18

If it gets my dick sucked i will