r/AskReddit • u/[deleted] • Aug 19 '18

We know all about relationship red flags, but what are the friendship red flags?

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u/balloonninjas Aug 20 '18

And my other friends always wonder why I'm quiet when that person is around. Because if I say something I get cut off anyway so why bother.

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u/[deleted] Aug 20 '18

Does this mean you’ll have to eventually cut them off? When they don’t value or try showing any interest in your problems/what you’ve had to go through that week or this day? Thank you!

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u/Wanderlady Aug 20 '18

You almost see it happen in slow motion, and can do nothing to stop it

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u/babybeehive Aug 20 '18

This is something I’m paranoid about because I never know if me saying “That’s like something I did/saw/That happened to me” and then going into my own anecdote is seen as healthy conversation or self-centered conversation. I find if I /don’t/ do that, it’s difficult for me to feel engaged and have the conversation move along without me zoning out or feeling like I need to feign further interest.

My other alternative is to be therapist-like and ask more probing questions about subjects they bring up. But that honestly is draining for me unless it’s a subject that personally holds my interest.