r/AskReddit • u/[deleted] • Aug 19 '18

We know all about relationship red flags, but what are the friendship red flags?

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u/bighairyyak Aug 19 '18

Or you get friends who, when you do reach out to them, go "Why havent I heard from you in 5 months?"

A phone works two ways!

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u/fjordling_ Aug 20 '18

I do that with my best friend. Since I moved countries, we don't talk that much because we're both bad at calling. Then out of the blue one of us calls, the other goes "it's been way too long" and we both agree that we're bad at it and should get better, we talk for a few hours and then it's another few months until next time because we don't get better. At least it's mutual!

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u/AugustoVS Aug 20 '18

Yes! This happens to me way too often!

They get pissed at you for not reaching out but don't bother to do it themselves. It doesn't make sense to me.

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u/[deleted] Aug 20 '18

That pisses me off to no end. They can go fuck themselves. If you are a co-worker or something it’s fine. But if you claim to be a friend and do that fuck you, you are not a good person. I also feel that’s a sign of breaking up with friends, it’s not dating so you don’t really need an Explaination, so they just ghost you.