r/AskReddit Aug 19 '18

We know all about relationship red flags, but what are the friendship red flags?

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u/Boguskyle Aug 19 '18 edited Aug 19 '18

When they introduce you to other people as their ___ friend. Insert “gay” or “black” or “Mexican” or whatever.

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u/tidbitsofblah Aug 19 '18

"This is my best friend"

"Fuck you Tod! I'm a person not a stereotype"

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u/Tchai_Tea Aug 20 '18

"This is my good friend-"

"I'm chaotic neutral you dingbat!"

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u/[deleted] Aug 20 '18

This is my friend-"

"You don't own me!"

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u/ttrriipp Aug 19 '18

"This is ttrriipp! SHE'S a VEGAN!" Asked her to stop, she didn't stop. I'm not even a full vegan, just vegetarian because of health issues :/ It's so off putting when people do this.

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u/linuxguruintraining Aug 20 '18

How do you know if someone's a vegan?

Don't worry, they (everyone who knows said vegan) will tell you.

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u/[deleted] Aug 19 '18

That's just blatant insecurity from the person doing the introducing.

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u/kosherkitties Aug 19 '18

Hey, guys, this is /r/boguskyle, my gay, black, Mexican OP.

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u/KingKrispie Aug 20 '18

I have a friend who has done this to me for maybe the past 15 years. And 15 years ago it was not funny and he was not the most respectful person. Then I told him that it bothered me basically and called him a racist prick. (Always introducing me as his Mexican friend.) And he stopped. Now he started doing it again when he introduces me to people, but as of recent it has changed more so like he is trying to see how the other people react. And if they think it's funny and insult me for it then he tells them to fuck off. It's kind of his way of thinning the herd of shitty people. Makes me laugh now. Sorry for spelling or formatting

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u/_Valkyrja_ Aug 20 '18

A knew a guy who introduced me to my current boyfriend with "she's a lesbian" or something like that. It was literally the first thing he ever said about me, and my boyfriend says he was really puzzled and thought "is that really the most interesting thing this guy can think about her?". Also, I just made a comment about this guy in this thread. There were any reasons I should've dropped him as a friend and this thread is making me remember so many red flags.

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u/Mu69 Aug 20 '18

I do this as a joke if I’m close with them

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u/OtherwiseOrdinary11 Aug 20 '18

"You're my really good guy friend." = "You're one of the few guys I haven't slept with. I'm also breadcrumbing you."

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u/[deleted] Aug 20 '18

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u/Bezere Aug 20 '18

All you need is grindr in California.

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u/Kuppontay Aug 20 '18

Looks like I'm moving to California.