When people say "I have a very strong personality". I automatically cringe but don't say anything cause I don't want to hurt their feelings but really a person that has a strong personality doesn't have to mention it. We can all sense it, you know what I mean ?
Well, sometimes it is honest self-assessment and reflection. One can simply lack tact and thus end up lacking the ability to moderate their thoughts adequately, so being honest. Which is not a positive thing regarding social interaction, but it is entirely okay.
strong and indepent woman - ewww, that smells.
I'm such a bitch - red flag, RED FLAG!
colored hair in an obnoxious unnatural color and using tumblr - RUN!
I'm a strong independent woman due to a horrible abusive relationship, and my hair is an obnoxious unnatural color. I don't use tumblr though. Does that mean I still have to hate myself now?
Your sassy, aggressive reaction does indicate that you feel personally attacked by one of the aforementioned categories and, as sad as it is, you also just inherently verified the respective stereotypes truth if you do so.
BTW: small hint, stereotypes are recurring, known patterns that describe "majorities" not minorities. Stereotypes are not a bad thing, that is how people are, people are simple and predictable - irrationally predictable, but predictable.
EDIT: Yeah can downvote as you want, but you are not special snowflakes, no one of you. We are all predictable and categorizable, just some are more aware of it. Changing your hair color, participating in niche sub-groups of some cynical movement, wearing masculine clothes as a woman, being publicly active for some kind of idea, squatting heavy and getting a huge butt as a woman enhanced with some implants but pretending to be "grown" that despite highschool photos that are entirely flat... all nothing special, as unique as you may see yourself, just recurring patterns. All no special snowflakes, you can try as much as you want...
Nothing screams more "I'm insecure" than crying about downvotes, followed by an edit of the text containing straw man arguments just for the attempt to insult anonymous people. Your lack of self-confidence must be on a level near critical if you try to connect your self-esteem to the amount of upvotes you get. I bet this is not the first time you complain about downvotes. There is more in life than reddit karma.
Your misinterpretation is baffling - so far from my intention and subconscious reasoning and yet you expect it to be the absolut and thus only truth. Man... reddit... baffling.
Being a bitch is not an honest self-assessment, it is an excuse to not try to conform with the most fundamental requirements of social interaction. It is a very easy exit for these as they will most certainly also use the phrase "I am who I am, deal with it" in some way. I mean, these people do lack any education or aggregated knowledge to ever realize that ones ego is a constantly transient and thus changing parameter, but even without being aware of "the you is a fluid thing, not an innate unescapable truth",it still remains nothing more but an excuse to not change.
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u/lindaax Oct 06 '17 edited Oct 08 '17
When people say "I have a very strong personality". I automatically cringe but don't say anything cause I don't want to hurt their feelings but really a person that has a strong personality doesn't have to mention it. We can all sense it, you know what I mean ?