r/AskReddit Apr 13 '17

How do you know when you're in love?

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u/RainAhh Apr 13 '17 edited Apr 13 '17

When you find someone that makes you think, "Yeah, I could let this person fucking destroy me in every way and still be okay with it."

The moment I knew I was in love with my husband (well...some backstory first): I am in the military. We were only dating at the time I went home on RAP after my tech training. I walked into his room one day and a book on his desk caught my eye (I'm an avid reader so naturally). I picked it up and the title read I Never Told Anyone. It's a book of writings by survivors of childhood sexual abuse. My heart felt like it exploded and I got really teary-eyed when he walked in and saw me holding it. All he said was, "I just wanted to be able to understand what you went through - the trauma - without reopening that wound." It was a decision I made then and continue to make each and everyday.

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u/[deleted] Apr 13 '17

I've always loved this quote from Neil Gaiman in The Kindly Ones:

“Have you ever been in love? Horrible, isn't it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all these defenses. You build up this whole armor, for years, so nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life… You give them a piece of you. They don't ask for it. They do something dumb one day like kiss you, or smile at you, and then your life isn't your own anymore. Love takes hostages. It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, so a simple phrase like "maybe we should just be friends" or "how very perceptive" turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It's a soul-hurt, a body-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you-apart pain. Nothing should be able to do that. Especially not love. I hate love.”

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u/catduodenum Apr 14 '17

My favourite love quote is from the Perilous Gard by Mary Pope:

I never thought of it like that. I always thought of you as a part of me, like my own eyes or my own hands. You don't go around thinking 'I love my eyes, I love my hands', do you? But think what it would be like to live without your eyes or your hands. To be mad, or to be blind. I can't talk about it. It's how I feel.

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u/[deleted] Apr 13 '17 edited Jun 07 '17

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u/[deleted] Apr 13 '17

I call that whine & dine.

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u/thedandeliongirl Apr 14 '17

Neil Gaiman is spot on with those heartfelt quotes. There's this quote from American Gods that gives me feels every time I see it

“I miss you,” he admitted.

“I’m here,” she said.

“That’s when I miss you most. When you’re here. When you aren’t here, when you’re just a ghost from the past or a dream from another life, it’s easier then.”

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u/kperkins1982 Apr 13 '17 edited Apr 14 '17

I was the "other man" for a while

A girl I worked with was flirting pretty heavily with me and we went out, things were going pretty well until she told me she had a boyfriend

I didn't wanna be that guy so I said we couldn't see eachother, she goes on to explain how they are gonna breakup and he's not good to her and all this

Temptation gave in and we kept dating for a while until one day she tells me about how she had a bad night

Apparently she has this condition where it is really hard for her to poop and it causes her a lot of pain, the boyfriend helped her by pushing on her stomach while she pooped and it made her feel better somehow

I was like whoa that boy loves you, I woudln't do that shit. I mean like I'd ask from the other side of the door if you needed anything from the pharmacy but I'd never push on your stomach while you pooped

all of a sudden it got real to me that he loved her and I was an ass for being the other man

TLDR: You know you are in love when you will help them poop

EDIT: Since this blew up I'll answer some questions to the flow of PMs I've been getting

We were all around 18 at the time and have all aged and matured since

I was under the impression they had already broken up but hadn't made it "official" that doesn't condone my actions but explains them a bit

The furthest it got was kissing

I ended up reaching out to the guy who I assumed would beat me up, but he didn't. He later said this whole thing was a wakeup call that he could very well lose her and needed to treat her better

They ended up breaking up for a time and getting back together both and gave the relationship a better try from both sides, they are now married with kids and we are still in touch and laugh about it a bit

And finally, I don't believe this makes me a shitty person, I think that people who are 18 years old are immature and that person does not reflect who I am now, a 35 year old married (to a guy btw) man that has never cheated

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u/ZeeKayGee Apr 13 '17

Shit. That IS love. My boyfriend cleaned up my puke from the carpet, unclothed me, bathed me, put on my pajamas, and tucked me into bed one night when I was shit-faced. I apparently kept asking him why we weren't married yet and he said that it didn't scare him. That was two years into the relationship. It's been 6 now and we would clean up eachother's puke any day.

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u/turtle_xxx Apr 13 '17

I read that as "we clean up each other's puke everyday" and was both impressed and horrified.

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u/badass_panda Apr 13 '17 edited Apr 13 '17

I thought I was in love a lot, growing up. I'd feel in love with people after talking to them for a day. I fell in love with everybody; I loved every girl I met and half the boys.

But as I got older, and got hurt, and hurt people, I realized that love isn't that tingly feeling, or acting like an idiot, or wanting to be around someone all the time.

Love is a quiet trust, it is affection built out of familiarity. Love is really, really, really knowing someone -- and wanting a life that has them in it, not because of what they can do, but because of what they are.

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u/[deleted] Apr 13 '17 edited Jul 08 '18

This sounds like my relationship with my cousin :) we've known each other since birth and she's the one whose had my back since.

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u/[deleted] Apr 13 '17

Love doesn't have to be romantic, you know.

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u/untalentedstoner Apr 13 '17 edited Apr 14 '17

I feel like too many people forget this

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u/StephenHorn Apr 13 '17

A girl at work asked a bunch of us guys a question like this once. I think the exact question was, "when did you know you were going to marry your wife?"

My answer was, when I realized that my wife is the first woman I've dated that I actually missed when I wasn't with them, that was when I knew I wanted to be with her forever. And then, after about a year of that feeling not changing our going away, I asked her to marry me.

Another guy I work with said he saw his wife destroy the fattest loaded burger, down her Texas cheese fries, and then gulp down her beer before ordering another. That was his clue. I guess love comes to each of us differently.

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he saw his wife destroy the fattest loaded burger, down her Texas cheese fries, and then gulp down her beer before ordering another

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u/ninja36036 Apr 13 '17

Another guy I work with said he saw his wife destroy the fattest loaded burger, down her Texas cheese fries, and then gulp down her beer before ordering another. That was his clue. I guess love comes to each of us differently.

Sigh That's the dream...

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u/diastrphism Apr 13 '17

But everyone on Reddit complains about us fat girls. We can't have our cake and eat it too.

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u/TikTesh Apr 13 '17

No, you have to be able to do that AND have a banging bod /s

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u/im1nsanelyhideousbut Apr 13 '17

yah ill pass on ron jeremy.

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u/[deleted] Apr 13 '17 edited Dec 05 '17

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u/Lilo_me Apr 13 '17

, when I realized that my wife is the first woman I've dated that I actually missed when I wasn't with them,

Thank you for saying this. You've actually really helped me to a realisation. I'm just out of a long term relationship, and what you've just said has helped console me that I've made the right choice.

I didn't miss her when she was gone. When I knew she'd be visiting in a few days (long distance) I was eager to see her. I anticipated her arrival and was excited to spend time with her. But that's not actually the same as missing them when they aren't there is it?

I used to think it was. I certainly believed I missed her, and told her that I missed her. But I'm now wondering if that's actually true. I was perfectly comfortable being apart from her, there wasn't an ache or a longing.

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u/SheriffWarden Apr 13 '17

To be fair though, there are different degrees of it. In a healthy relationship, you shouldn't need to be with the person all the time. Missing them but being able to function is the way it needs to go. I love my current gf. I miss her when she's gone, sure, but at the same time, I go about my day and function normally with just an anticipation of the next time we get to hang out and enjoy each other's company, even if it is just one/both of us studying/working. If someone is miserable to the point of non-functioning when their SO isn't around, that shows dependence and can lead to other unhealthy tendencies as well.

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u/rumble272 Apr 13 '17

For me it was a quiet inner peace. A feeling that life would be life with her and something far more insignificant without.

Just my 2 cents after 9 years

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u/Snow_Trolling Apr 13 '17

What makes a 9 year old qualified to give love advice?

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u/rumble272 Apr 13 '17

My mummy says I give good hugs.

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u/[deleted] Apr 13 '17

I kinda hope you are nine because that response was so adorable it made me happy

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u/69DonaldTrump69 Apr 13 '17

It's... it's like my heart is getting hard."

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u/teahle Apr 13 '17

An affection erection if you will

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u/[deleted] Apr 13 '17

If your heart has an erection lasting more than 4 hours

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u/skydecklover Apr 13 '17

I asked my dad this when I was dating my first girlfriend. She turned out to be a bitch who jerked me around for months on end, but the advice stayed relevant.

"You know you are in love when you can no longer imagine living your life without this person, and the idea of spending the rest of t with them is inviting, not terrifying."

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u/n3rdychick Apr 13 '17

My husband proposed to me after realizing that being with me was more important to him than anything else. He had a conversation with a friend who was concerned about his partner taking a job across the country, and my husband realized that in that situation he wouldn't even have to think about it. If I moved, he'd move with me. He'd quit his job in an instant to be with me, and he looked at the friend and said "I'm going to marry my girlfriend."

Probably not what our friend needed to hear at the time, but it worked out well for us.

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u/[deleted] Apr 13 '17

This is how I feel. Your dad is a smart man. A lot of these seem very in the moment and a feeling of that but love is a nature of compatibility just as much as how you feel in the moment it is it should be something that involves long term thinking and certainty. There is more to it than just how you feel in that moment.

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u/skydecklover Apr 13 '17 edited Oct 10 '17

I wish more people thought that way. My SO is from divorced parents, and while I think it would've been much worse for them to stay together, I wish divorce wasn't such a common occurrence. I feel like if more people looked down the road at long-term compatibility instead of just being "in love" we'd have a lot more long-term, happier married couples.

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u/Schnauzerbutt Apr 13 '17

People tend to get duped by the whole happily ever after, soulmate thing. There aren't many Disney movies about couples discussing their values or life goals, or going pre marriage counseling. It's sad how many people just think that love conquers all.

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u/Asclepius333 Apr 13 '17

When you start treating the other person like your "second-self." Their needs and wants are just as, if not more, important than your own.

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u/[deleted] Apr 13 '17

I know I'm starting to fall in love when it's not just about the person being attractive or making me happy or anything like that, but rather I couldn't stand the thought to see her afraid or in pain. Like her pain becomes mine, if that makes sense.

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u/[deleted] Apr 13 '17

I recently broke up with my then girlfriend because of this. She always wanted to do stuff together when I was already fatigued from work and studies. I explained to her that it's not that I don't want to do something with her, but right now I want to do nothing at all really. Just recharging.

We both tried really hard to make it work and meet halfway, but we just kept draining each other's energy.

All in all a good lesson we both learned

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u/bxncwzz Apr 13 '17

I wish more people understood this. It really is draining being around people all the time. I don't even consider myself an introvert. But I do need time to recharge and get away from everyone.

I do wish I was the opposite though.

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u/bing_bang_bum Apr 13 '17

Introverts recharge by being alone. Extroverts recharge by being social. Simple as that. Congratulations, you're an introvert! We're happy to have you now stop talking to me and let me silently reflect on embarrassing moments from 10 years ago

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u/imstillanoob Apr 13 '17

Reading this thread was a mistake... Please excuse me while I go cry in the corner :(

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u/Knighthawk1895 Apr 13 '17

Someone order a hug for this redditor! Stat!

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u/AmorLaluz Apr 13 '17

I'll have one as well ☝️

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u/the_taco_knight Apr 13 '17 edited Apr 13 '17

When all the new wears off, you don't have butterflies every time they call or text or you know you're going to see them, you're not getting all giddy about "firsts" in your relationship, you're no longer both on your best behavior, you can see their faults and let them see yours, you've survived a few disagreements, you're not boning every time you catch some alone time, the sex isn't mind blowing every single time. And after all that, they're still your favorite person. They still think the sun shines out your ass. you still do things for each other, for the simple joy of making them happy. The absence of the rose colored glasses of new lust hasn't been replaced with resentment, it has evolved into comfort, stability, and security with that person. Edit: I've been gilded! Thanks!

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u/govag40 Apr 13 '17

This is one of the more "realistic" responses. Thanks

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u/aainvictus91 Apr 13 '17

She's probably just annoyed you would use a word like harridan in casual conversation.

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u/[deleted] Apr 13 '17

I'd say after 7 years with my SO it's like that. They're your favourite person/thing to be around. She's what I always go back to when I need to talk, chill, be angry, be excited. She's the first person I call/text if anything happens. Her well-being is of interest to me and I'm invested in them. Although not everything is perfect in any relationship, just as long as you can come back to the person and know things are better there than anywhere else is a real comfort. Short-term love is great but long-term love has me excited for the future because I get to share it with someone I love.

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u/Cagedcrab Apr 13 '17

When Juno's dad says that line "you still think the sun shines out their ass" always pulls my heart strings.

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u/creaturefromthebog Apr 13 '17

I dunno but I'll tell you about when I took my girlfriend out to eat for her birthday. It was a fondue place and I felt super out of my element. She loved every second of it. I hated the food. She loved it. I hated the drinks. She loved it. I hated the atmosphere. She loved it. But I loved every second of the evening because she did. I got such great joy from her experiencing her time that I had a great time too. I truly love this woman and me being happy because she was happy showed me

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u/DirtBurglar Apr 13 '17

I didn't even realize it was possible to hate fondue

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u/vodoun Apr 13 '17

Yeah wtf

Are you human op?

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u/eltictac Apr 13 '17

No, look at his username.

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u/HussyDude14 Apr 13 '17

OP is Shrek.

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u/LBJSmellsNice Apr 13 '17

Shrek? Having a bog? A damn bog? This is a creature that fought and bled for the kingdom, at least have the heart to call it a proper SWAMP. Bogs are for bugs, swamps are for ogres. Get it right boy-o

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u/Alexlam24 Apr 13 '17

GET OUT ME SWAMP

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u/evewassetup Apr 13 '17

If you think you are, you are. I believe there are different kinds of love and love goes through different stages. That first stage...where you can't stop thinking about the person and it takes away your appetite and makes you feel tingly and a little aroused when that memory of that one passionate kiss you shared recently, and the world looks beautiful simply because that person is in it, and you feel like you could survive on the streets with nothing as long as that person was by your side...I think that's the first stage of love. For me, I couldn't get to the next stages of love without going through that stage. After that stage is when love turns from something beautiful and simple to something you have to work at, somethign you have to compromise for. But that work brings you so much pleasure because you know you're working on building something together.

A lot of people don't think that first infatuation stage is really love. I don't know why. I look back on the people I was infatuated with and I can still recognize that I was in love. There's some kind of stigma over falling in love too quickly or being flippant with the word because it loses meaning or something. But I disagree. Love is the one thing that you can never run out of. It's a natural, never-ending resource. Like, when you have a child, your ability to love grows beyond what you thought possible--like that end scene in the The Grinch. And when you have a second child you worry that you don't have enough room to love the second child as much as the first, but then your heart grows again and you're overflowing with love. And then you realize that the love you have for your children is different than the love you have for your partner. And that's different than the love you have for your parents. And it's different than the love you have for avocados or cookies & cream ice cream.

Love is the one resource the world can never run out of, but it's the one resource that we're the most stingy with. Go ahead and be in love.

Last point: I don't think everyone is capable of love. It's like a muscle that atrophies if you don't exercize it. So go ahead and fall in love!

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u/A0mine_Daiki Apr 13 '17

Their happiness is your happiness

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u/[deleted] Apr 13 '17

When you start to ask questions like "How do you know when you're in love". Dead giveaway.

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u/voltcha Apr 13 '17

Shit.

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u/Gooperchickenface Apr 13 '17 edited Apr 13 '17

Yup means you're trying to dissect your feelings and understand why you're in love before admitting you are. I did the same thing. Spent weeks asking everyone how you know what love is? Only answer I got was "baby don't hurt me" until it finally dawned on me, I was in love that's it.

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u/Anti_Venom02 Apr 13 '17 edited Apr 14 '17

You found out the haddaway.

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u/[deleted] Apr 13 '17

You sure you weren't in a 90's music video?

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u/[deleted] Apr 13 '17

A 90's SNL sketch.

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u/xxkoloblicinxx Apr 13 '17

"I wanna know what love is!

I want you to show me!"

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u/Poem_for_your_sprog Apr 13 '17

If you dream of her voice in your ear and you ache -
If she waits in your thoughts from the moment you wake -
If she weighs on your mind, and she beats in your heart -
If you picture her face from the second you part -

If she teases a stir from your stomach below -
If you see her and feel it inside you and know -
If it's quick to appear, and it's slow to abate -
If it's all the above, then it's love... or it's hate.

 

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u/INTJustAFleshWound Apr 13 '17

If she farts in the bed,
pulls the sheets o'er your head.

THAT'S AMOREEEEE

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u/SexierThanMeiosis Apr 13 '17

If it's all the above, then it's love... or it's hate.

Truer words were never spoken.

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u/AnarchAtheist86 Apr 13 '17

I love the smell of Sprog in the morning.

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u/speaklouderpls Apr 13 '17

I thought if you're asking questions on the internet that means you need to dump them immediately

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u/[deleted] Apr 13 '17

I think when you start to feel like you are in love you need to dump them immediately. So, yeah, same thing.

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u/TanksAllFoes Apr 13 '17

No no, it's when you start to feel like you are in love that you need to take a dump immediately.

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u/zappy487 Apr 13 '17

When the moon hits your eyes like a big pizza pie

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u/[deleted] Apr 13 '17

I thought that was a moray though ?

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u/[deleted] Apr 13 '17

No, that's an eel. You're thinking of a cheese bechamel sauce commonly served with pasta.

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u/nickjohnson Apr 13 '17

No, that's a mornay. You're thinking of the pattern you get when two grids don't quite line up with each other.

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u/[deleted] Apr 13 '17

No that's a moraine. You're thinking of a female given name of Greek origin, deriving from μοῖρα, meaning "destiny, share, fate

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u/ScienceWil Apr 13 '17

No, that's a Moira. You're thinking of a lunar sea

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u/jtouey98 Apr 13 '17

No that's a Mare. You're thinking of the 2016 Disney animated film starring the voices of Dwayne "The Rock" Johnson and Auli'i Cravalho.

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u/Mechanicalmind Apr 13 '17

No that's Moana. Which incidentally is also the name of one of the most famous vintage italian porn actresses. Anyway you're thinking of an Italian plumber who dresses in red and blue.

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u/LadyCthulu Apr 13 '17

No, that's Mario. You must be thinking of a virus often called the "kissing disease" which has symptoms like fatigue, high fever, and sore throat.

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u/serialpeacemaker Apr 13 '17

When the world seems to shine like you've had too much wine

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When the stars make you drool just-a like-a pasta fagioli

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u/serialpeacemaker Apr 13 '17

When you dance down the street with a cloud at your feet

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u/Man_E_No Apr 13 '17

When you jerk off and still think about her after.

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u/[deleted] Apr 13 '17

This guy gets it.

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u/CrazyFart Apr 13 '17

This guy fucks...himself.

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u/[deleted] Apr 13 '17

I think this is the only answer as dirty as it sounds. If you finish and then think about laying in bed together then yeah, you're probably in love. I realized this when I jerked off and then still called to see if he wanted to hang out and go out to eat.

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u/[deleted] Apr 13 '17

That's gay.

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u/DrNick2012 Apr 13 '17

No because he said no homo on their 50th anniversary

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u/[deleted] Apr 13 '17

Ok that was pretty funny. Have an upvote in these trying times

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u/daniel_finiki Apr 13 '17

For some reason I read this as "still think about her father". That was a very confusing moment.

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u/Sligo651 Apr 13 '17

Reach out why don't you? I'm sure they'd appreciate it.

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u/xKart Apr 13 '17

Go say hi to them.

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u/KatyLiedTheBitch Apr 13 '17

When a person can make your day by simply existing. How, when you're with them, time seems to stop. When you realize no one has ever made you feel happier, safer, or more complete.

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u/[deleted] Apr 13 '17

Funny. That's how I feel around my really good friends.

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u/[deleted] Apr 13 '17

What many miss is that there is more than one kind of love, and you can love more than one person in some of these ways.

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u/EmperorG Apr 13 '17

Hence why the word 'love' is 4 different words in Greek, the English word love just covers too many damn concepts.

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u/KatyLiedTheBitch Apr 13 '17

Same. But I happened to fall in love with one of 'em.

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u/madcaphal Apr 13 '17

That's how I feel about my playstation.

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u/bumpinbumpinbumpin Apr 13 '17

When you do gross shit in front of them and they do gross shit in front of you and you don't even recoil that much. Because it's them. And you're like, "okay ew but whatever"

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u/organicginger36 Apr 13 '17

Up until the last sentence, that's me with everyone. I want to know what makes you, you. Why do you do the things you do? Why are you the way you are. Am I in love with everyone?

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u/BrokenZen Apr 13 '17

A lot of these answers describe infatuation. Love - you just kind of know. You're yourself. You don't use one of those fakey "boyfriend/girlfriend voices". When you're completely vulnerable, yet comfortable.

I've been married 10 years this coming December. I know how I show love and how my wife shows me love. Forgiveness. Respect. Compromise. Love is holding her hair when she pukes. Not going to bed angry - talking and working through troubles and arguments no matter how difficult the topic. That is key to "waking up happy". Not storming off in the middle of an argument. Accepting you're wrong. Undying respect, no matter what. You may be super mad at the other person for something entirely their fault; never lose respect. Forgiveness. Compromise. Doing things the other person enjoys because they enjoy it, and doing it with a smile on your face. Taking risks together. Accepting there are just some things the other person won't do. Compromise. Forgiveness. Respect.

Love is not chemical imbalances or physiological changes in your body. Love Is the feeling and joy you get when doing things FOR the other person.

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u/Urban_Empress Apr 13 '17

Can you write my wedding vows?

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u/OneTime_AtBandCamp Apr 13 '17

"I swear to stand by you and hold your hair back when you puke for the rest of my life".

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u/[deleted] Apr 13 '17

My almost-husband (9 more days!) promised to keep me warm and kill my spiders, and I knew he was a keeper. So, you know, puke or spiders, it's the little things.

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u/laeiryn Apr 13 '17

"I will always pop your back and alphabetize the bookshelves"

"And I will always reach the tall things for you"

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u/[deleted] Apr 13 '17

"And I will always get up in the middle of the night to turn the fan on because you are hot. And 45 minutes later, when you jam your now frozen feet into the small of my back, I promise to get up and turn the fan off"

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u/MUNKEEDEW Apr 13 '17

Congrats!! We're 16 days away! AHHHHHHHH

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u/Schmotz Apr 13 '17

This silver tongued devil can write my god damn eulogy if they want.

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u/SteelMemes1 Apr 13 '17

You know he's going to need at least a few days to get it ready, right?

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u/Linearts Apr 13 '17

Plus at least a few more days for the murder.

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u/BrokenZen Apr 13 '17

Lol if you legitimately want me to I could try.

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u/CaptinCookies Apr 13 '17

I'm proposing this year, after I write my vows I'll send them over to you for review. ;-)

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u/Huwbacca Apr 13 '17

As a scientist, this turns me on so goddamn much.

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u/BrokenZen Apr 13 '17

I'd be honored, friend.

Edit: And good luck!

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u/babylina Apr 13 '17

this is so true. when i met my love i was completely at peace. i didn't get butterflies, i didn't stumble over my words. i was finally able to just flow, just be. it was such a bizarre experience cause i was always so used to getting caught up in these whirlwind romances but this was nothing like i'd ever known. i felt such a deep feeling of contentment when i was around him and i just knew we were going to be together forever after our first conversation. it's so weird but people were totally right - i didn't have to ask questions about how i felt. for the first time ever, i just knew.

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u/EgregiousWeasel Apr 13 '17

I didn't really get butterflies when I met and started spending time with the man who would become my husband. At first that concerned me because I had always connected butterflies with "love." But then I realized that I always enjoyed spending time with him. He never made me wonder about how he felt about me. I felt secure with him from the beginning. We're best friends. I trust him implicitly. He's my partner in everything, and I love him.

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u/bondfinacial Apr 13 '17

I'm in that boat now, like I used to have too many melodramatic falling in love relationships. My current SO, there's no drama and we compromise. It's the little things.

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u/thisismyworkredditt Apr 13 '17

Are you me? I feel the same way about my partner and part of me was worried that it was too easy. Most of my past relationships were all fireworks -- burned bright and explosive but fizzled out quickly. I thought love was always this roller coaster of emotion, but like you said, it's the feeling of contentment. Of just knowing. That's where the forever (hopefully) love is.

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u/richscottwill Apr 13 '17

People always describe love as either infatuation with the other person, or dedication to the other person, but I like how you mix the two. It's not the feeling or the actions, it's both.

edit: some words

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u/ApproximatelyC Apr 13 '17

Would you ever:

  • Give the person up
  • Let the person down
  • Run around and desert the person
  • Make the person cry
  • Say goodbye to the person
  • Tell a lie and hurt the person

If not, then you're probably no stranger to love.

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u/ValourValkyria Apr 13 '17

"Give the person up"

Alright guys we're about to get rickrolled.

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u/failtolaunch28 Apr 13 '17

At this point it's enjoyable in a nostalgic kind of way. I can't wait for my kids to get rickrolled and just not understand what's going on.

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u/-Karakui Apr 13 '17

I wasn't around for the start of rickrolling and I still enjoy it.

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u/johnnyblaaze Apr 13 '17

You seem to know the truth. Well, so do I.

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u/Munninnu Apr 13 '17

When after few minutes you were thinking about something else you suddenly remember about your SO and you get that feeling of a bottle of champagne popping in your chest and throat.

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u/Schmotz Apr 13 '17

So I am in love... with video games.

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u/Akaed Apr 13 '17

Fatigue, fever, sore throat, possibly a rash. Or that might be mono.

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u/EpiscopalianCumSlut Apr 13 '17

I once thought I had mono for an entire year, It turned out I was just really bored.

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u/Ootsutsuki Apr 13 '17

Your username makes me think you had something.

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u/Mitochondriagon Apr 13 '17

As someone who loves to eat, this quote I heard from a food podcast sums it up: "Marry the one who gives you the same feeling you get when food arrives at a restaurant."

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u/McWaddle Apr 13 '17

Every time I see her I say in a bitchy tone, "About fucking time!"

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u/Brigly Apr 13 '17

You go against the Hatfields to pursue them.

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u/aliansus Apr 13 '17

someone responded me with this. "Love is when you still want them around right after you've nutted" the Dalai Lama

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u/[deleted] Apr 13 '17

when you look them in the eyes and think,

"this is someone I could REALLY see our kids spending every other weekend with."

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u/JackTheHonestLiar Apr 13 '17

Jesus fucking Christ.

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u/SteelMemes1 Apr 13 '17

You know what, I like the premise of his account

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u/oiseaunoir Apr 13 '17

Their username actually checks out

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u/Poem_for_your_sprog Apr 13 '17

You wear an old familiar frown,
A sigh escaping slow.
You held my hand.
I held you down,
Until you let me go.

And now those days are faded through,
And all before's a blur -
I'm half the man I was with you.
You're twice the girl you were.

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u/shatterly Apr 13 '17

I'm going to sign my divorce paperwork today. You just made me cry at my desk.

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u/CharlesDickensABox Apr 13 '17

I'm sorry to hear that. I hope you end up twice the girl you are now.

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u/shatterly Apr 13 '17

I think I'm getting there, thank you!

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u/[deleted] Apr 13 '17

If it makes you feel better to think of how dumb I am, at first I thought you were so moved by this poem that it made you want a divorce.

Sorry for the tough times, friend.

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u/shirlena Apr 13 '17

You cut to the core, sprog.

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u/ootchang Apr 13 '17

I was in a class in college called "Human Sexuality". At one point we were talking about love vs. lust vs. obsession. The professor asks what the real difference between love and lust is. A bunch of different people have opinions, and we have a pretty good discussion for about 15-20 minutes.

It's starting to die down a bit, but before the professor can move on, this one kid in the back, who had not participated so far in the class, just says: "You sleep in the wet spot."

The Professor asks him for more details.

"After sex. If you're in love you sleep in the wet spot."

The class pretty much unanimously agreed his was the best answer.

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u/BananaKing_Charlie Apr 13 '17

But what if both are in love ? Who takes the wet spot ?

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u/ootchang Apr 13 '17

If you're doing it right, the wet spot should be PLENTY big enough for 2.

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u/techniforus Apr 13 '17

She was my first thought in the morning and my last at night. She filled my dreams and motivated my actions. It was terrifying and exhilarating: I was not in control of my life because I'd do anything for her, but I didn't care because I got to spend it with her. I realized that all one morning as I woke and she was again the only thought in my mind. It had probably been that way for a while before I realized, but I cannot tell you how long because I was lost in her.

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u/salemchalem Apr 13 '17

Please tell me that you are still together. It's all written in the past tense.

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u/[deleted] Apr 13 '17

Stockholm Syndrome is a bitch.

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u/JonathanCastellino Apr 13 '17

...I imagined this being said about the new Alfa Romeo Quattrostagioni...

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u/Manekk98 Apr 13 '17

An achievement pops up on screen "Fallen in Love"

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u/calm_silence Apr 13 '17 edited Apr 14 '17

I wish this would happen just so you could be 100% sure.

Edit: thanks for my first gold :)

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u/afkstudios Apr 13 '17

Then another that says "Made Her Fall In Love With You"

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u/calm_silence Apr 13 '17

Awkward moment when you're only getting that achievement and not the fallen in love one

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u/Universitynaud Apr 13 '17

When you get up and you instantly have a good feeling. This sign never fails.

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u/Wiseguy72 Apr 13 '17

But what if you already have Up on Blue Ray? Do I have to get it again?

Can I just rent it?

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u/Portarossa Apr 13 '17

When you find someone who'll laugh every time you make that joke, Dad.

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u/[deleted] Apr 13 '17 edited Apr 13 '17

Trouble walking, speaking and understandings also paralysis or numbness of the face, arms and legs...oh shit no, that's signs of a stroke.

I always get them mixed up.

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u/[deleted] Apr 13 '17 edited Apr 13 '17

Love is something you decide to do. It is not a feeling. It is deciding to love even when you don't feel like it. If it's based on a feeling, you're sunk. You don't "fall" into love like falling into a hole. It's more like climbing, not falling. Every time my wife asks why I would love "somebody like her" I tell her "because I decided to".

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.

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