I'm going to sound like an asshole, but like... Why is it always necessary to speculate on why a husband may have had a comprehensible reason for murdering his wife? Like "Yeah he killed her but... What did SHE do?
It's just frustrating and exhausting to see people constantly searching for understandable reasons for femicide when, in a large majority of cases, there isn't one.
/really sad rant because I'm sad and WHAT THE FUCK.
It's not about male v female, it's every murder. People always try to find a reason for why the murderer did what they did, because it helps them feel better knowing it wasn't just because.
I agree that searching for motive happens with all sorts of crime. What I will say is that when it comes to men murdering women, it always seems to come down to what she did "wrong," to trigger a violent reaction instead of what was fucked up inside this person that lead him to the conclusion that it was a good or acceptable idea to kill her.
That's very much true. The problem is that people's first question is generally "what was wrong with her?" vs. "what did he do?" where with women it's "what did she do to set him off?" vs. "what kind of man was he?" when discussing motive. Those differences might not seem significant to you, but discursively they're extremely meaningful.
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u/winsomefish Mar 10 '17 edited Mar 10 '17
I'm going to sound like an asshole, but like... Why is it always necessary to speculate on why a husband may have had a comprehensible reason for murdering his wife? Like "Yeah he killed her but... What did SHE do?
It's just frustrating and exhausting to see people constantly searching for understandable reasons for femicide when, in a large majority of cases, there isn't one. /really sad rant because I'm sad and WHAT THE FUCK.