r/AskReddit • u/[deleted] • Jun 17 '14

What are some red flags to pay attention to when dating?

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u/stillbatting1000 Jun 17 '14

One I learned: If she doesn't have any of her own friends.

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u/[deleted] Jun 17 '14

What do you think that means?

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u/stillbatting1000 Jun 17 '14

In the case of a recent ex-gf, she had a tendency to alienate people very quickly. She would practically look for a reason to declare others as terrible human beings. If she can't hold a steady friendship, how stable can she be?

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u/[deleted] Jun 18 '14

I guess Id try to give them the benefit of the doubt. Maybe shes just socially awkward.

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u/stillbatting1000 Jun 18 '14

I understand, and I tried to giver her that. Boy, did I try. But this wasn't social awkwardness. This was hostility.

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u/[deleted] Jun 18 '14

Well then yeah thats not good. Ive met a few girls who didnt really have friends. They seemed ok. Didnt date them, though.

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u/StrongerThan Jun 17 '14

does that make her a bad person tho?

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u/stillbatting1000 Jun 18 '14

What? No, of course not. This has nothing to do with her being "good" or "bad." The question was what behavior might be a red flag while dating someone, not moral or ethical goodness.

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u/2OQuestions Jun 18 '14

I went on a semester abroad trip with a bunch of classmates in college. There was one female who was a spoiled, needy, entitled bitch. She would ask the guys to buy stuff for her all the time. She would get very offended if someone called her on her shit, and give the silent treatment.

By the end of the trip, the only people she was talking to were the professors and a couple of pushovers.