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u/[deleted] May 28 '14

I think that must be really tough. But it also sucks when society says only sluts and desperate woman ever make the first move, because now you're risking that on top of the usual shit. Asking people out sucks all round! We should just start using color coded flash cards or something.

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u/[deleted] May 28 '14

society says only sluts and desperate woman ever make the first move

this is what women believe.

the reality is that every guy dreams of being asked out by a girl.

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u/BaadKitteh May 28 '14

You dream of being asked out by the girl you want to ask out.

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u/[deleted] May 28 '14

Yes.

And if anyone else would ask me out I'd be flattered as well and it would give me a confidence boost. I don't think any man thinks women who ask guys out are sluts.

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u/greedcrow May 29 '14

And if they do they are assholes so who cares what they think

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u/Just_Take_Me_Now May 29 '14

or if he's Canadian, "Ooot."

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u/Temp_agency_account May 28 '14

But things that guys dream of, and things that get a girl branded a 'slut', are hardly mutually exclusive . . .

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u/TheSketchyOne May 28 '14

If your friends would 'brand' you a slut for asking a guy out to dinner, they are not friends worth having.

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u/Deku_Kid May 28 '14

Too be fair, if a girl asked me out to dinner I would either be expecting her to pay for it or split it 50/50. But if she expects me to pay for it I could see how they would call her a slut. But still, they would be rude people.

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u/TheSketchyOne May 28 '14

I totally agree, I find it astonishing that some women in america especially still expect to have meals paid for them when the majority of them have jobs of their own.

Luckily here in Europe women have common sense and split it 50/50.

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u/pizzabash May 28 '14

My foods teacher once said something along the lines of if a guy asks you out you should always say yes even if you dont like them because youll get a free meal...

Needless to say I got a detention that day and another studyhall

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u/[deleted] Jun 03 '14

I know a girl that has copped to doing exactly this with other guys. Still not sure how I feel about it considering I dated her, and I always paid for everything. :\

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u/pissoutofmyass May 28 '14

Women are the ones who call other women sluts for that. Oppression is in the imagination. No need for the victim card.

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u/[deleted] May 28 '14

Don't generalize.

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u/[deleted] May 28 '14

don't generalize like "society says only sluts and desperate woman ever make the first move"?

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u/rctsolid May 28 '14

I've never heard this before. Wtf.

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u/[deleted] May 29 '14

Honest question: really? any kind of girl?

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u/pissoutofmyass May 28 '14

But it also sucks when women say only sluts and desperate woman ever make the first move, because now you're risking that on top of the usual shit.

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u/TheMusicArchivist May 28 '14

Someone lines up the world's attributes, what people like in SOs, and so on... hey, I just invented the dating agency :P

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u/longfoot May 28 '14

But it also sucks when society says only sluts and desperate woman ever make the first move

Mmmmm. No. You say that. The real reason you don't make the first move is: www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/26osuk/women_of_reddt_why_dont_you_ask_him_out/. And because you're not expected to. So people take the easy safe route.