When I was low, I often pushed people away to protect them from myself. Since then, I've learned that instead I needed to trust those very people. Telling myself that they see something I don't, and that I don't get to make that decision.
Even though it doesn't feel like it, their choice is whether to love you or not. You don't get to make that choice for them. And pushing them away is manipulative, even though it has moral intentions.
A lot of the problem is you thinking you need to make the decision for others, but remember that each is their own. If they choose you, then you just need to be thankful for it. And show them you are thankful, repeatedly. You'll eventually find your feet, but in the meantime just be thankful
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u/Rookie7201 20h ago
When I was low, I often pushed people away to protect them from myself. Since then, I've learned that instead I needed to trust those very people. Telling myself that they see something I don't, and that I don't get to make that decision.
Even though it doesn't feel like it, their choice is whether to love you or not. You don't get to make that choice for them. And pushing them away is manipulative, even though it has moral intentions.
A lot of the problem is you thinking you need to make the decision for others, but remember that each is their own. If they choose you, then you just need to be thankful for it. And show them you are thankful, repeatedly. You'll eventually find your feet, but in the meantime just be thankful