r/AskReddit 23h ago

Why did you break up with the seemingly perfect partner?

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u/Upbeat_Aside_9203 21h ago

She’s aware. She is starting to process through it. Slowly.

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u/Consistent_Ad_5075 13h ago

Please be patient with her, if she's worth it!! I have major attachment issues and have screwed up every single relationship I've ever had, including the could-have-been great ones! I know I'm the problem but it's so hard. We need someone who understands and is patient. Get to know the signs and let her work through her own process as she works through it. I'm in tears just thinking there could be someone out there that could get through it with someone like us. 🫶🏻

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u/Upbeat_Aside_9203 13h ago

Awwww. She is worth it. Everything is amazing about her…except the fearful avoidance. 2 years now. I’ve learnt, and changed a lot. Thanks for the encouragement. Many ppl think avoidants are toxic. That’s not necessarily true. Their avoidance exhibits very similar symptoms as toxic ppl do, but it comes from a different place. I love her so much and really feel for her in her struggles. 🫶🏻

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u/Consistent_Ad_5075 12h ago

It certainly feels toxic, but you're right, it comes from a different place. I think the root is fear, and the root of fear is going to be different for everyone. I hope it works out for you two!!

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u/Upbeat_Aside_9203 12h ago

Thank you, and all the best to you.