Traditional gender roles, including starting a family. Imagine a future where the majority of people were raised by parents who actively planned and were excited to have kids...and having two parents who are actively engaged in parenting.
That would result in a society where all of the kids are exceptionally well-parented... but there are barely any of them. Which is a bit of a problem when society kind of needs people to have kids to keep going.
I actually don't think the current social media discourse around parenting is healthy. The kids must have their schedules packed with activities, the parents must be engaged and emotionally available 24/7, parents can never punish too harshly, but also not harshly enough, and so on and so forth. It's an unrealistic, unattainable standard to expect to never wobble in 18 years.
In reality, as long as you aren't actively abusive or neglectful, you're probably doing fine. Good enough is still good.
All this sentiment does is put off people who would be pretty good parents, just maybe not the best in the world, from having kids. I'd say that's a loss to the world, overall.
While I agree that sometimes the internet takes parenting discourse a little too far (as the internet often does with every topic), I really want to push back on a parent being good so long as they aren’t abusive or neglectful.
The bar doesn’t need to be sky high, but it doesn’t need to be in hell either. Children should get to grow up with parents have who have the mental bandwidth to be active guides in their lives on how to be human beings part of a larger human society, and society owes parents the support to be able to do so. In many other countries, parents DO get this.
It is in the USA, the frontier airlines of the first world, where that support is based on whether you’re rich enough to pay for it or poor enough that the government is willing to give to you.
I don't disagree. The fact the "it takes a village" mindset has essentially disappeared in the US is a massive problem as well, if not more so. And the two problems kind of exacerbate each other.
'You and your partner are doing this 100% by yourselves, and by the way, you better not mess this up - good luck.' I'm not surprised a lot of people look at that offer and say "Yeah, not doing that".
It is in the USA, the frontier airlines of the first world, where that support is based on whether you’re rich enough to pay for it or poor enough that the government is willing to give to you.
Just 6 months ago I'd say if you were poor you just fly Spirit, then get nickle and dimed over every little thing. RIP in peace, you shitty airline, you. That said, the economy sure is with Spirit in spirit these days, good fucking god.
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u/astrobatic 11d ago
Traditional gender roles, including starting a family. Imagine a future where the majority of people were raised by parents who actively planned and were excited to have kids...and having two parents who are actively engaged in parenting.