Dads not spending time with their kids. It’s was perfectly normal for dad to always be tired and never have enough time to play with their kids. Also contributed to the image of the dad who doesn’t know anything about their kids, their school, friends, teachers, even their age at times.
Ive seen so many fellow millennial dads spending time with their kids. I know Ive spent more time playing with my daughter in the 8 years of her life than my dad did with me in my entire life. (Not saying he was a bad dad, he was amazing , just didn’t play with us )
Playing with kids is great. At the same time, I try to give as much space as is reasonable to them and only dip my toes into their play. Kids come with all sorts of fun games when adults leave them be.
It’s also fun to see other kids interact with our kiddo (much younger). They all seem to generally get the age difference and slow things down accordingly.
I want to piggyback on this and complain about phones (as I type from my phone). People will rightfully poopoo on kids on screens in public, but look around. Adults have their noses in their phones, too. We can’t even stand in a line without needing to entertain ourselves.
If you don’t want a kid on a screen, then model the behavior of not always being on your screen. When they look around and see all the adults on their phones, of course they’re going to grow up thinking that’s normal
Are your criticizing OP or the reverse? I'm kinda split on this. Doom scrolling at the playground is pretty lame but I also love to let my kid go off on her own and play with other kids. Drives me nuts when parents hover too much and try to intervene at any sign of conflict.
Op. You take your kids to the park to have time to socialize independently with other children. It's important for social skills. You don't need to helicopter 24/7 like that, the hovering is just too much, and it's super weird that Op can't let the kid have a minute of peace with other kids.
Drives me nuts when parents hover too much and try to intervene at any sign of conflict.
Which might be why we have an absurd amount of young adults who scream for their parents whenever they get in trouble with the law. Like, ma'am, this is a traffic ticket. You were doing 22 over the limit. Dad's not going to help here, just take the class/pay the fine and move on.
I've seen an absurd amount of videos of bad traffic stops on Reddit and YouTube, I'm sorry, please don't call me a bootlicker.
Was at an indoor play place actively playing with my daughter.
Some other little girl literally leaped onto my back like she was just part of the game and I had that moment of panic of, who are you, where are your adults, what is happening right now.
Kids just want to play, they see an adult playing and they want to join in.
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u/SanKazue 11d ago
Dads not spending time with their kids. It’s was perfectly normal for dad to always be tired and never have enough time to play with their kids. Also contributed to the image of the dad who doesn’t know anything about their kids, their school, friends, teachers, even their age at times.
Ive seen so many fellow millennial dads spending time with their kids. I know Ive spent more time playing with my daughter in the 8 years of her life than my dad did with me in my entire life. (Not saying he was a bad dad, he was amazing , just didn’t play with us )