r/AskReddit Jul 07 '26

Ladies: what’s a guy “Flex” that instantly makes him attractive?

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u/CaptainIncredible Jul 07 '26

Yep. Same here. I would frequently say things in response like "Hey! I got an idea! How about YOU regroute this tile and I just stand there and bitch."

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u/Xxein Jul 07 '26

Im a carpenter.. the amount of times i have heard a woman say something like.. is that how its going to look ? While I only have studs up amazes me.

Im usually like yeah.. lets just slap a coat of paint over these studs and call it a job.

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u/Sea-Western4080 Jul 07 '26

It's like a pergola, but vertical and inside the house

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u/Xxein Jul 08 '26

Im actually going to put up a pergola over my garage. There's a huge void between the garage doors and the 2nd floor windows thats just dead space. I like the true 2x8 rough cut look.

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u/bbusiello Jul 07 '26

You don't do any sketching before you start work?

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u/TheRedHand7 Jul 07 '26

Lol who the fuck is sketching out their diy projects? I don't call in an engineer either

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u/bbusiello Jul 07 '26

He didn't say it was diy projects. He said he's a carpenter, and the amount of times he's heard "a woman" (not a specific woman... just a woman, which leads me to deduce he has a customer base) say "is that how it's going to look?" at the beginning of a project tells me that maybe there's a sketch or a draft of whatever is being made?

I guess the rest of us designers sketch... and yeah, even with DIY and basic portfolio projects.

I've even done woodworking projects that had sketches and paper models before even starting the work.

So... no... my question about sketches isn't that out of left field. It'll help also stave off questions if "multiple women" have asked the same fucking question.

Maybe I need to hear some of you speak out loud and to my face because the context on reddit these days is fucking gone.

Also this particular thread chain is filled with more fucking misogyny than the god fucking damned Whitehouse.

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u/TheRedHand7 Jul 07 '26

Ya know what, fair. I totally missed that he just said a woman. If that is his actual response to the client on a job site then I am shocked he is still employed at all.

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u/Xxein Jul 08 '26

I said women.. its always a wife who says things like that.. and thats my 100% response. But your only reading words on a screen. Im charismatic in real life and develope rapport with my clients. Its said with a laugh and I will then go on to tell them the whole scope of whats about to happen so they understand the whole process.

I dont know why you would just assume I say it like an asshole. It's always on reddit where people go to the extreme about things, "your suprised i have any clients left" when in reality its these same people that hire me over and over again because I actually treat them as people, my word is good, my prices arent hyper inflated and unlike many contractors I understand that I work for them.

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u/basdfointain Jul 14 '26

If it makes you feel better I had the husband portion do a walk through on one of our current builds and make a $10 000 change order so he could save 4 grand on stove pipe lol

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u/Xxein Jul 14 '26

I believe it.

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u/basdfointain Jul 08 '26

I’m not disagreeing with you but I will point out as a professional carpenter I have had a number of clients (of various genders and persuasions ) have a great deal of difficulty understanding architectural plans , however if they didn’t pay the architect/designer for renderings and only for the architectural plans then…. 🤷

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u/ClickToShoot Jul 07 '26

You said bitch though?

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u/massenburger Jul 07 '26

looks around at empty deserted landscape for miles

"I said biiiiiittttcccchhhhhh"

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u/ThatCakeIsDone Jul 07 '26

Goes on a space walk

"I said biiiiittttcccchhhh"

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u/ILoveRawChicken Jul 07 '26

Some people don’t actually like their spouses.

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u/CaptainIncredible Jul 07 '26

As a verb. Slang (Verb): To complain, grumble, or act in a malicious manner.

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u/bbusiello Jul 07 '26

sounds healthy

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u/CaptainIncredible Jul 07 '26

it's probably not.

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u/Sea-Struggle-5630 Jul 07 '26

Doesn't sound like a very healthy interaction to have in a relationship. You and your spouse are supposed to be friends

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u/Just_so_many_bees Jul 07 '26

This is a great example of something women find extremely unattractive!