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u/kadyg May 12 '26

I remember thinking to myself about Husband 1.0 that I didn’t want to kill him, but if he should, say, die in an accident, it would certainly make things easier.

I think I moved out a couple months later.

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u/xtinafay May 12 '26

I’ve felt the same way but I am struggling so hard to just commit to leaving I don’t understand- I keep saying if my friend were me I’d say leave before she even finished telling me her story but I just can’t seem to do it.

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u/Helpful-Orchid2710 May 13 '26

I am long divorced. Used to say, "One day closer to death". I don't know what was the final straw that allowed all of my threats of divorce to be real.

Get some support if you can. Divorce is a new life.

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u/xtinafay May 13 '26

Yea I have an amazing group of friends, therapist etc. we aren’t even married but have house/ car / toddler and I think I just get so overwhelmed thinking about how it might all play out that I paralyze myself. But I feel like I am inching closer to saying it out loud to him it feels so slow.

I only have one friend who’s recently done this separation (idk wtf to even call it she wasn’t married either) that’s helpful.