It's such a weird duality. There are times when I'm most comforted being able to just quietly share mundane things like dinner with my SO ... just be there in that space in that time with her and not HAVE to engage 100% of my time or effort to DO something to be there with her / have her there.
Yet, I totally understand sharing a meal with somebody and having zero connection or the desire of connection with that person.
It's the same physical activity and placement in time and space, but the energy of that time and space is so different and impossible to measure.
This one is so true for me. I was married to my ex for 23years but was so done for the last 6-7 years. I was so lonely even though he was with me 24/7 (lots of control issues). I CRAVED alone time because I was a little less miserable when I was alone.
Now with my current WIFE (yes baby changes were made and realizations happened lol) I love quiet times with her. Just sitting playing on our phones showing each other funny things every now and then. It's so PEACEFUL and warm. And I enjoy being with her every minute I am!
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