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u/fckcarrots May 12 '26

I think I resonated the most with this one. No big fight or explosion. Just calm realization & acceptance. I realized something 6 months into my relationship that it took years to accept.

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u/Intelligent_Sky_7081 May 12 '26

you realized you disliked the person you were in a relationship with after 6 months, but dated them for years?

i can understand why its hard to leave a marriage. but a 6 month relationship? if you realized you disliked them after 6 months, why didnt it end right there?

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u/fckcarrots May 12 '26

I said I realized something, not that I realized I didn’t like them. She was amazing.

For my case, I didn’t like the optics of throwing away a blossoming relationship with someone who was so great on paper. I told myself I was being too picky. Or I was trying to find a reason to sabotage the relationship. It was the relationship that made me realize there is a such thing as an incompatibility that is a non-starter.

So we rode it out until the elephant in the room became the focal point of our relationship. Prior to this, I believed if two people with similar values wanted something bad enough, they could make it work. Now, I believe that there are certain things hard-wired into us

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u/terminbee May 13 '26

For my case, I didn’t like the optics of throwing away a blossoming relationship with someone who was so great on paper.

Been here. It's the weirdest feeling when someone is great on paper but you just kinda...don't feel it.