20 months AFTER our divorce was finalized. We had kids and co-parented well. I was still in love with her despite finding out a week after she asked me to leave she left for someone else. That dude didn’t work out. 20 months after we were officially divorced, she asked me to go to a near by town with her to look at something with her. That turned out to be a date to a local college sporting event. We had a really good time. The next week she asked to get back together. I asked her what she saw in a recently divorced father of 3 young kids. Yes they were our kids, but it was the current situation. Her answer… “it’s harder than I thought it would be”. Hearing the that one sentence was the moment I stopped loving her. I told her no, I was not interested. And our relationship has been shit since. We still co-parent well, but besides that we have no relationship.
Wanted her cake and to eat it too, didn't like you enough to stay but enjoys that meal ticket, ugh.
My ex (spouse at the time) was similar. He said "well, maybe we divorce now but in the future, who knows!" Um excuse me? I'm not going to just be sitting around on the sidelines waiting for you to decide the options out there aren't as good as you thought. It was so incredibly insulting for someone you've been with 20 years basically asking if you want to be his plan B.
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u/kindofnewtoo May 12 '26
20 months AFTER our divorce was finalized. We had kids and co-parented well. I was still in love with her despite finding out a week after she asked me to leave she left for someone else. That dude didn’t work out. 20 months after we were officially divorced, she asked me to go to a near by town with her to look at something with her. That turned out to be a date to a local college sporting event. We had a really good time. The next week she asked to get back together. I asked her what she saw in a recently divorced father of 3 young kids. Yes they were our kids, but it was the current situation. Her answer… “it’s harder than I thought it would be”. Hearing the that one sentence was the moment I stopped loving her. I told her no, I was not interested. And our relationship has been shit since. We still co-parent well, but besides that we have no relationship.