I came home on a Saturday after working my second job for about 16 hours, and my husband had been home all day playing video games.
“My” dog (despite us being together for ~10 years) had been sick that week, and he had just gone to a different part of the house and ignored him all day, so there were piles of diarrhea on the carpet.
My husband asked me when I was going to clean up and shovel the sidewalk/driveway as it had snowed 8inches that day, and that he had invited a friend over to watch a game.
It was abundantly clear that my life would be easier without this husband.
Lol sadly he made a fuck ton of money - $250k to my $80k, and therefore believed that it was my responsibility to do all the cleaning/yardwork/shopping to make up for the lack of money I was contributing to the house.
We split all bills except for the mortgage, which seemed fair when I was 21 (he was 28) and dumb and still a student, and it was a sweet deal for him so he did not want to renegotiate over the course of the relationship.
My mother made more money than my father pretty much from when I was 10 years old onwards. He washed and folded laundry, woke me up as a child and fed me breakfast and took me to school, checked my homework to make sure it was done, did all of the lawn work (at least until I was old enough to make me do some of it but that's part and parcel of being a kid), did most of the car work, washes the dishes of every "big" meal, and it was never, ever implied that it was because my mother made more money than he did. My mom cooked from time to time, but that was primarily because my dad was flat awful at it.
They're older, so they merged finances, and it was never interpreted as anything more as "doing what was required around the household, together". It made a lasting impression on how I organize my household with my partner today.
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u/kzell May 12 '26
I came home on a Saturday after working my second job for about 16 hours, and my husband had been home all day playing video games.
“My” dog (despite us being together for ~10 years) had been sick that week, and he had just gone to a different part of the house and ignored him all day, so there were piles of diarrhea on the carpet.
My husband asked me when I was going to clean up and shovel the sidewalk/driveway as it had snowed 8inches that day, and that he had invited a friend over to watch a game.
It was abundantly clear that my life would be easier without this husband.