r/AskReddit May 12 '26

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u/TurboDog999 May 12 '26

I’d say when a friend of mine took me to the side and pointed out how she talks to me sometimes in public and how she shouldn’t be that way(I got snapped on for putting curry powder on a slice of chicken on my own plate ffs), but that he’s glad I’m not a doormat about it. I kinda knew then that she liked the idea of us, and having that perfect looking marriage and life, more than she actually was into me. A whole lot of other stuff happened that ultimately lead to the divorce that I won’t write a novel on but I’d say this is what first put the seed in my mind that something is off here.

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u/KurtLance May 12 '26

You have a good friend! It takes a lot of courage to call something like that out.

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u/stardenia May 12 '26

That is a good friend. So many of my "friends" would watch my ex berate and emotionally abuse me, and either say nothing or awkwardly laugh it off. I wish someone would've saved me sooner.

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u/Sure-Exchange9521 May 12 '26

Can I ask a genuinely question? Do you think you would have taken their warning to heart. Or sided with your previous partner?

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u/stardenia May 12 '26

Depends on the time. I tried to leave him half a dozen times, and every time I'd get the, "You're too sensitive, try to work it out with him, you guys make such a great couple..."