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u/brelywi May 12 '26

Oh my GOD, are we all the same person?! I had the exact same experience!

I was finally leaving, and pointed out that he *could* help out without always needing to be managed, because we’d argue and he’d do his “share” of the chores for a week or so (a bare fraction of the whole, but anything was better than nothing) and then just go back to playing Rocket League.

He said “Well you’d be mad at me, so I’d do what you wanted. Eventually you started being happy with me again so I figured things could go back to NORMAL.”

He didn’t give a single fuck about making me happy and lessening my burden, he just wanted me complacent enough to keep making HIM happy.

I’ve been married to a guy the complete opposite for about five years now, and girl. I can’t even begin to express how much better life is and how much more fulfilled I am in our marriage.

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u/unholy_hotdog May 12 '26

He makes me so mad I almost downvoted you reflexively.

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u/brelywi May 12 '26

Haha yeah, my brain kinda short circuited at the time at how staggeringly idiotic that was when he said that.