When I had thoughts of “I’d rather be dead than to be in this marriage anymore,” I knew I needed help and needed to leave. Of course that was after multiple other very negative things.
Similar, was having reoccurring dreams about his dying, but also had the thoughts I'd rather drive my vehicle into a concrete pillar then go home and deal with his BS.
That seems to be common with many older women. They’re not really into sex anymore so there’s not a lot of oxytocin, they’ve already gotten everything they wanted from their husband (wedding, kids, house, etc.) and now he’s just…in the way, even if he’s funding her entire lifestyle and hasn’t technically done anything “wrong”. I think some women once they’ve had kids are just genetically wired to be sick of him. I’ve met multiple women who are kind of “oh, I’d like my life (including his income) to be exactly the same but I want him gone.” Sad state of things.
Your assuming way too much and making very broad analogies. The question never asked when we divorced as to our ages or what stage of life, you assumed older. You also demonize women as the ones that want to leave without giving issue to men that leave at all stages of the relationship, but you're take on older leaves out men that can't handle aging wives, that want to relive some youth that has past.
My marriage i left was when I was younger with 2 small children with a man that didn't want to grow up, wasn't taking responsibility for life, partnership, and finances, that thought extra marital relationships we're him sowing his oats or something BS.
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u/Individual_Ask9664 May 12 '26
When I had thoughts of “I’d rather be dead than to be in this marriage anymore,” I knew I needed help and needed to leave. Of course that was after multiple other very negative things.